The Power Of Words

The Written Word is a very powerful tool.....It is this power that is unleashed by writers and content creators.

There are many ways of saying something through your words. But for saying it right and getting the desired results, it is important to follow the right style and go with the flow!! When you write something, make sure that your pen does the talking.

More and more website owners are realizing just how important content is for their website. Infact, content is the most important of elements and the driving force behind the success of the website. This makes Content Writing important and definitely very interesting!

Let's take an example of a website selling a product. The content will act as the salesman for the product. Though the salesman is absent physically in this case, the content on the website takes his place to convince the visitors and prospective buyers.

This is what the content should actually do when it plays the part of a salesman! -

Talk to the visitors

Catch their attention and interest

Let them know how the product will benefit them.

Convince, coax and cajole them into buying the product.

And do all of this in as little time as possible!!!!

It is the content thus, which will guide the visitors and eventually push them to take the desired action, which in this case is to order and buy the product!!

When writing for the web, content should be terse, to the point and should have the ability to force an action or get the desired result.

Expression- The Power of Words

Sing, laugh, jump ,read, work, cry, roar, shout, gaze, dance ,love, write, feel ,do anything...but when you do it ,let it come straight from the heart.

Confused?
All I'm trying to say is that when you want to do something in this world, if you want to reach somewhere, show something, prove something, be someone.. give it your all. show a zeal, a spark that would enlighten the path in front of you and show you the path to success.

If you have a flair for seeing flowers when there are none, if you feel what no one else can feel and you have the ability to express it through your words or actions, don't stop.

Not all of us are gifted with IMAGINATION and CREATIVITY. More importantly very few of us want to show that facet of ours which dares to express what we feel. Let us focus here on one such wing of creativity, the ultimate ex-pression of your flights of fantasy the delicate and fine art of WRITING.

WHO are the successful authors? These JK Rowling, Salman Rushdie, Anurag Mathur? They are one of us. Only ,these are the people who boarded the ship of their imagination and let the sea of their take its course, even thought its full of storms and high tides. Once they are on that ship, there's no looking back. They find new routes, new stories, new ideas to enthrall you, entertain you, to make you laugh and cry just with their words! Just imagine the power of the human mind, it can take control of your senses through sheer ex-pression. Every story that comes out of a writers brain is connected to his own life in one way or the other. There's nothing in this world known as PURE FICTION. We are all real people so are the thoughts, so when someone tells you fiction requires a thought that isn't there for real, don't believe it. Somewhere ,someone, knows how that thought became a reality.

Writing anything, your diary, some story, article, even books, is an art. One cant acquire it. Its inborn...all you need to do is nurture it and polish it n let your creative input flow! Never write for the sake of writing, its not just a profession, its a passion, so savour it, every moment that u spent feeling it inside you would reflect in the outcome. And bring you closer to realising your dream of becoming a writer or author.

So if you think that there is magic in your words, if you know how to make your words touch someone's heart ,take the plunge and lets the music flow from your fingers! See it transform into a beautiful dancing angel who is loved by one and all.. or as a fat paycheck that would delight your material instincts for a long long time.

so grab that pen if you think you have it in you.. its never too late!

Letting Science Touch Base with Decision Making

Scientists and researchers come together to discuss issues of sustainable development at an annual summit in New Delhi.

Get involved." This is the message that F. Sherwood Rowland, a Nobel laureate in chemistry, urges for governments taking on the menacing reality of climate change.

"Rather than fanciful suggestions for mitigating global warming-from carbon sucking technologies to planting sulfuric acid in the atmosphere to serve as a shield from the sun's ultraviolet rays and cool global temperatures-the issue will need a unity of purpose from all countries," Rowland told delegates at a three-day summit in New Delhi on sustainable development and climate change. While global warming may already be visible in the early melting of Alaskan ice or polar caps and is probably not seen on the sunny beaches of California, it is not going to be limited to one region or continent alone.

The summit, organized in February by The Energy and Resources Institute, has become an important landmark for those committed to finding a globally acceptable and socially inclusive solution to the problem of climate change. The goal of sustainable development is to allow Third World communities to improve their lives without destroying their own environment and future.

One of the natural processes of reducing carbon dioxide in the atmosphere is photosynthesis, a beneficial activity of plants. However, people living near forests are tempted to chop them down and need ideas on how to earn their livelihood from them, instead.

Rowland, who is research professor of chemistry and earth system science at the University of California, Irvine, won the Nobel Prize in 1995 with Paul Crutzen and Mario Lolina for work in atmospheric chemistry, particularly concerning the formation and decomposition of the ozone layer.

Rowland says the increase in carbon dioxide and a related increase in global temperature have been well documented over the last 200 years, with the rise being most pronounced during the last three decades. According to some scientists, even if the human race were to stop carbon emissions from the next second, the damage to the planet is now irreversible. "We have understood the dynamics of climate change. Now we just need some degree of an effort to find a solution," says Rowland. "The time to act is now."

Give Your Relationship That Much Needed Improvement

Give Your relationship That Much Needed Improvement

In these modern times, when divorces are on an all time high, couples should make every effort possible to solve their differences and improve the quality of their relationship.

Here are some tips for improving your relationship with your spouse -

Spend quality time with each other.

Become best friends more than anything else.

Respect one another.

Compliment each other.

Don't wait for Valentine's Day or your Anniversary to show that you care. Surprise one another with thoughtful deeds all year round and show your love.

Know and appreciate each other's likes and dislikes.

Be willing to listen.

Never underestimate your loved one's problems.

Discuss your dreams, hopes and aspirations.

Remind each other what brought you together in the first place.

Learn to say sorry when you're wrong.

Fights are only natural. Learn to reach a conclusion and end the fight asap.

Do things together.

Learn to drop grudges.

Don't nag.

Reminisce the past and cherish every moment that you spend together.

Don't hesitate from showing that you care.

Appreciate each other's differences.

Communicate with one another. Don't let yourself slip away from the one you love.

No matter how busy you are in your professional lives, always take out the time for your spouse and don't neglect your personal lives.

I Think I Can. I Think I Can. Can I?

I think I can. I think I can. Can I?

Your mental train ticket to self-empowerment

We all find ourselves at certain points in our lives holding first class tickets to negative mental trains of thought. Michele Wahlder (MS, LPC, PCC), a two-time cancer survivor and Dallas, Texas-based Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist, has placed thousands of people on the right track to self-empowerment via a plan she calls the 5 C Process. The journey challenges individuals to:

One

Clarify Current View – Where are you now- honestly?

Conscious awareness of your current view is the first step in becoming the best you can be. Getting clear about how your life aligns with your values, talents and unique gifts is vital to your happiness. You need to know where you are in order to learn where you want to go.

You can clarify your current view by completing a review of eight life areas. Be honest with yourself about how happy are you with your profession, finances, health and overall well-being, primary relationships, personal development, spirituality, environment, hobbies, etc.

Two

Connect with Your Highest Vision – Where do you want to be?

Example: A client of mine, a yoga instructor, decided she was happy teaching but wanted to contribute to the world on a larger level. She wasn’t happy with the quality of the yoga clothing that was accessible to her and her fellow yogis. Her vision was to design and create fun, hip and timeless yoga clothes using eco-conscious fabrics.

You have to get really clear about what you want. It is crucial that you connect to your highest vision of yourself because you can’t create it unless you are clear about what it looks like. If you don’t have a vision of where you want to go or what you want to be, you will most likely NOT get there. To quote Henrietta Klauser, “If you have a connection to what you want, take the next step and write it down.” If you don’t have any idea about what you want, or how you want to be in life to bring about greater happiness, begin looking through magazines and create a Vision Board/Collage of what attracts you. You may also want to consider getting an outside perspective from a friend or a professional coach. I take my clients through a guided imagery that gives them a glimpse of what their future could look like. There are also books that can help guide you. Just get help assessing your talents, divine gifts and abilities and then determine how you want to use them more fully in the world. We can’t help others as fully, if we are not aware of how we can best serve. So instead of thinking of it as selfish to engage in knowing yourself better, I would suggest you consider it selfish to hold back and not be the best you can be. Only in this way, can we help the world and others.

Three

Create Inspiring Goals – How will you get there?

Example: My client created a tiered plan of what needed to happen step by step – outer goal. All of this was influenced by her inner goal of keeping a measured pace and a balanced life. Her goal was to enjoy the process.

You have to create a plan and take specific actions to get you from where you are now to where you want to be. When most people write goals, they just write a list of action steps, usually external actions. I believe it is more powerful to have inner and outer goals. An outer goal is what you want. For instance, you might think, “I want a new house”. An inner goal is more focused on the how. How will a new home benefit me and my family? Will it offer more common gathering areas, a larger kitchen so that we can cook together, etc.? How can I appreciate what I have now until I get this home? How can I make this a joyful experience rather than a stressful one? If you can not be grateful for what you have now, then when you get a new home, it will only create very short-term happiness for you. Then, you will be focused on the next external illusion of happiness. For 2008, I suggest taking at least three of the life areas I mentioned earlier and jot down how you couldbenefit from living your highest vision in each area. Next, add action steps toward your desired achievements along with completion dates.

Four

Clear Obstacles – How will you remove obstacles in your way?

We all have dreams and visions for our life, but frankly, there are many things that can get in the way. The two most common obstacles I see with my clients are:

The inability to say NO— In order to bridge the gap from your current view to your highest vision, you have to make room for what “Could Be”. If your life is full and you want to add more of the things that are truly important in your life, you should start the change process by making room first. You must say no to some things in your life, so you can say yes to what is most important. You have to give up the destructive habits, behaviors and activities to make room for new ones.

A metaphor would be a water hose watering a flowering plant. The water in the hose is your life force and the flowering plant is what you are trying to grow in your life. If the water hose has leaks, it will not have enough water or life force/energy to reach its desired outcome or vision (to grow the plant into full bloom). Examples of leaks might include toxic friendships, unrealistic expectations, watching too much television, eating sugar, overspending, negative relational patterns with your spouse or working on an outdated job.

Example: A client’s obstacle here was that her 8- year-old daughter needed caring for and she was afraid she wouldn’t be able to be a good mother plus jumpstart a successful, new business. We remedied this issue by getting clear on the proper definition of a good mother. Also, practically speaking, she needed help picking up her daughter from school. So she got her husband to assist her in this area so she would have time to create this new business.

Negative self-talk—Research shows we have approximately 50,000 internal messages we say to ourselves daily. We are constantly walking around having conversations with ourselves. And it is what we say that makes all the difference in the overall quality of our lives.

Example: I was once in Starbucks, and I watched this woman spill her coffee while reaching for a sugar packet and I heard her say out loud, “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”

Now, I just happen to hear her, but this is an example of something you might say internally as well. You might think, “No big deal. I say things like this to myself all the time.” Well, IT IS A BIG DEAL as our subconscious hears these messages and acts on them as if they were real. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t want someone else saying to you.

Think of self-talk like mental fuel. Now, imagine filling your car with dirty water. We all know you wouldn’t get very far. Now, take that same car and fill it with high quality gasoline. You’ll most likely reach your destination. It is the same with people and the words we use. If the words are negative and toxic, we will sputter along with low energy and our performance suffers. If our words are positive and tender, we will feel confident, energized, encouraged and will most likely meet our goals faster and easier. Here are some key things to remember if you ever find yourself preparing to board the train of BAD self-talk:

B– stands for belittling self-talk. Stop telling yourself, “I am not good enough.” If your dream is to have a healthy self-confidence, which of the following examples is more likely to get your there:

A. “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”

B. “Whoops, mistakes happen.”

Can you see how the Answer B is much kinder?

A – stands for awfulizing. Stop predicting a future filled with gloom and doom, and dwelling on scary thoughts. If you dream of obtaining a career you love, which of the following will move you closer to your vision:

A. “I did terribly on my interview, I’ll never find a job I like.”

B. “I will answer that question on past employment differently next time and I will ace it! I know I will one day have the job I love.”

Can you see how Answer B places you in the mindset of a successful job search?

D – stands for deceiving. This is when you deceive yourself into thinking you are a victim, and that other people are to blame for your circumstances. If we want a happy relationship which will of the below responses will aid in achieving this goal:

A. “If my spouse would only do more around the house, then I would be happy.”

B. “I can and will choose happiness today, no matter what my spouse does.”

Answer B is the right choice, wouldn’t you agree?

S – stands for shoulding – This is when you give yourself a lot of shoulds, musts, and ought tos, then beat yourself up for not living up to unrealistic standards. Say your dream is to be in top physical condition, which will further that:

A. “I should have eaten a salad for lunch instead of that big ol’ hamburger. I’m such a pig!”

B. “I could have eaten a salad, but I chose not to. Tomorrow I will make healthier choices.”

The second choice is so much more inspiring, don’t you think?

Five

Commit to Action – Are you willing to do what it takes?

The final step of the 5 C Process is to commit to action. How many times have we all made plans and never carried them out, or started off excited and lost motivation? No one ever does anything great alone. We all need encouragement and support from others including an accountability partner who is willing to help hold the vision of the person you want to be. In the previous example of my client, her biggest negative self-talk was how to be a good mom and a good business woman. Her thoughts were, “If I don’t pick up my child every day from school, I am a bad mother.” Instead, we replaced it with, “Picking up my child from school daily is not what makes me a good mother. I am, indeed, a fabulous mother.”

Here are the four action steps that have been proven to help you eliminate your negative self talk:

• Become aware of your negative messages –listen to voice in head

• Stop! You have to stop immediately if you find yourself dwelling on any negative thoughts

• Replace negative thoughts with a kinder alternatives

• Practice. It takes a commitment of time in order to turn a pattern of negative thinking into a more positive train of thought.

Creating Your Vision

Creating Your Vision

"Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one" Albert Einstein

I feel that one of the most important ingredients in your formula for success is having a clearly defined and vivid vision of where you want to be. At first the “how” is not that important, you need to create a vision that gets you so excited that you develop the mentality that you will stop at nothing to get what you want. Many people first focus on the how than very quickly find themselves overwhelmed with too many details and just as quickly talk them selves out of pursuing their goals. You have to take a leap of faith and trust that the how will be shown to you as you go along. Do you remember the days as a kid with dreams of epic proportions? What happened those dreams? You got older and domesticated by a society that says that having those dreams is foolish. That’s nonsense, why wouldn’t you want to accomplish the things that even as a kid you knew would make you happy. I encourage you to dream like you once used to.

“Shoot for the moon…even if you

Miss you’ll still be amongst them stars”- Beanie Sigel(rap artist)

One way I keep myself motivated and keep my vision alive is through my picture book. In my book I have everything that I want and every morning I look at it to remind me what I want in life. Go right now and get some magazines and cut out every picture of the things you want and places you want to visit, don’t be thinking if you can actually get those things now, dare to dream. Remember your mind thinks in pictures, look at your picture book until in becomes as vivid as possible in the theater of your mind. Your mind cant tell the difference between something you remember or something you experience in real time.

Visualization Exercises(meditation):

(Please read this whole section, I will explain why almost all self help fails to produce the results people want)

You can think of meditation as conscious sleeping. Just as you sleep to gain energy for your daily functioning, meditation is conscious sleeping that gives you all the energy(creative abilities) you need for what you intend to accomplish.

I also use lucid dreaming as another way to increase creativity, I will soon write a hub on lucid dreaming.(Lucid dreaming is when you actually become aware in your dream that you are dreaming, once properly trained you can control your dreams)

Use the power of meditation to help you achieve your goals. Strive to everyday meditate one minute for each year of your current age. I am 24, so everyday I try and meditate at least 24 minutes. If you are new to meditation check out this website on transcendental meditation .There are many techniques find something that feels good to you.

Quantum Mind Power

Daily Routine:

1. Pick a nice comfortable place where to meditate. Have an intention on what you plan to meditate on before hand. Ex. A destination you want to visit.

2. Find a comfortable position to sit. Sitting on a chair or on the floor, does not really matter as long as it is comfortable for you.

3. Cross your legs, clasp your hands together.(this helps make your own energy circuit and gives stability)

4.Close your eyes, than stop inner and outer chatter.

5. Relax, begin thinking that your whole body is becoming extremely relaxed.

6. Eyes should be closed.

7. You will notice that your mind is full of many thoughts. Your mind will than begin to ask questions to those thoughts and try and come up with answers whether they are known or unknown. This is why your mind(ego) can be your enemy if it mostly thinks in negative terms.

8. You will need to transcend your mind and thoughts in order to meditate. Your mind and thoughts are what separate you from your higher self, you can also think of your higher self as your subconscious mind don't worry about the labels.

9. You transcend your mind by simply observing your breath. Don't inhale/exhale consciously just observe your natural breathing. Don't go behind your thoughts, if you catch your self drifting just always come back to your breathing. Slowly the amount of thoughts reduces and your breathing becomes thinner and shorter. If you are able to keep all your focus on your breath, you will get to the point of no thought and no breath. This state of no thought is your connection to your divine being and energy body. The more you meditate the more benefits and energy that you will receive. Your own self awareness and consciousness will also expand.

10. You will feel a very pleasurable feeling meditating. If you feel any discomfort in your body these can be possible areas of disease or illness. If you meditate everyday you will heal your body naturally.

11. Now that you are in a state of no thought and total relaxation. Begin to think only on your intention. Remember whatever you think now is in a state that will be impregnated directly into your subconscious. It is incredibly important that you don't color any of your thoughts with any lack,limitation,dis belief or doubt. This is why almost all self help material does not produce the results people expect. Wishing for more money(or anything else) never works, the thought of wanting more money also has the thought of doubt attached to it. Ask your self how many thoughts that you think about have been modified in a way that is not beneficial to you. You just never realize that you are programming your sub conscious all day. This is why meditation is so powerful. You are able to make suggestions to your subconscious where the thought is not modified in any way shape or form. So if you want to make things happen fast you need to get rid of the concept of attaching time to yourthoughts. You have to remember that everything you get in your life comes based on the conditions that you set up and time is usually one condition that cuases the most frustration with people. Just as a computer programmer gives a computer instructions to complete a task, you program the most powerful computer you have which is your subconscious. Your conscious mind acts as the gate keeper as to what thoughts you let in. Now that you know this choose to become more aware and conscious about what you think all day long. Learn to see the world in a non linear way, remove time from your consiousness and watch how things show up in your life faster than you ever thought.

Thoughts = feelings = actions = results (just like that you can begin to shape your life)

12. Mentally rehearse every moment of it with all your senses. Dare to be like Peter Pan :)

13. Visualize in vivid detail, your intention as established fact. Also make sure you meditate only on days you feel good. Remember you want your thoughts to be as pure as possible. This also means that you really find out what you want, make sure its not something you want solely for ego purposes. Thoughts that involve the ego are usually always colored with negativity.

14. With time you will begin to be able to hold vivid pictures of anything(you will develop you third eye). The more you are able to hold onto an image in your mind the more power you give it.

15. Get up and go have a great day :) notice how much energy you have the rest of the day. As you advance in your discipline, you will have a lot of fun basically creating your day before it starts.

Beliefs:

To start making that vision a reality you will have to change some of your beliefs and adopt beliefs that will help you reach your goals. Because if you have this great vision of you retiring on your own private beach but deep down you don’t believe you can do it, you have already sabotaged yourself. Your desire and your belief are in conflict with each other and therefore you will not manifest what it is that you want into your life. If you want to be a good leader one day but you currently have the belief that you are a shy person, it will not happen. You need to truly make a decision to adopt the belief that you are really outgoing. When you truly decide to do something you will find a way to do it.

“Nothing happens unless first a dream” – Carl Sandburg

Some Ways to shape your beliefs:

1. Always think Success- as soon as you think about failure forget about it and don’t let anymore negative thoughts snowball. The more attention you give a thought the more powerful it will become than you will make it harder for yourself to get back to a productive mind state. The only way to change how you feel is to think about something else. Whenever you feel doubt, fear, and failure creeping into your mind have a default thought that you can use to avoid giving attention to mental poison. As soon as I feel I am entertaining thoughts of negativity I immediately begin to think about relaxing on a beach and affirm to myself that “I attract abundance to all areas of my life”. The more I try and have the feelings of being on the beach with no worries and remind myself that I am in complete control of how I feel, I immediately feel the negativity begin to melt away as I begin to focus on my new positive thought.

2. Develop the belief that you are better than you currently feel- don’t look at your weaknesses as a burden but as an opportunity to improve your self. When I find something I don’t like about my personality I don’t get down on myself for it, I just realize that now I have something I can work on to make myself better. Most importantly love and accept who you are, not who you will or should be.

3. Believe that sky’s the limit- if you have little goals you will have little success, the bigger your dreams the more potential for your possible success. Even If you think your dream is too big, strive to reach that dream, because you will end up at a better place than if you would have set your sights on a smaller goal. The trick is to really believe you can do it, this just isn’t wishful thinking. Wishful thinking never got anyone anything, you need to find out what you want and get out there and get it. If you really want that house on the beach your mind will come up with ways to help you get it.(develop faith in your self)

How to remove junk beliefs:

1. Meditate on your old belief and tell the truth about it. Now replace it with a belief that will better serve you. Meditate on it until you feel you have changed that belief.

Now when you accept these beliefs it means you will have to raise your standards and develop a strategy that will put you on the road to accomplish what you set forth. Do whatever you have to do. Read any books that will spark your interest or help you discover any distinctions that will point you in the right direction. Find a role model, a person who has already accomplished what you want. Find out what some of their beliefs, interests, body language, image, etc. is and adopt them as your own. Your role model can serve as a blue print, the goal is to cut down on the trial and error so you can get where you want faster than you ever thought possible. You can take all the qualities from all the people you admire and add your own personal touch. Just think of if it as if you are trying to build the person you want and know you can be. Thomas Edison is one of the greatest inventors in history, he was able to elaborate, modify and adapt on other peoples ideas. You don’t have torecreate the wheel just constantly be aware of any success ingredients you come across and make them part of your identity. Think of your mind as a warehouse the more you learn and store will eventually serve as an inventory for future reference, which will breed new ideas and perspectives.

Consistency is key we are all creatures of patterns and habits. In order to become the person you desire to be, start by changing your patterns. Think of all the quality traits you must possess, make a pattern which uses those traits efficiently than strive to be consistent. Consistency will develop into habits and this is key because if you fail to be consistent with your actions you will not be consistent with who you desire to be. This lack of confusion between your actions and what your mind knows you are capable of leads to tremendous amounts of stress, confusion, and even depression. Many other consequences also come from a lack of consistency.

This is why awareness of self is critical; you need to be constantly evaluating your self. Decide if the persona you are currently displaying is the reality that you want for yourself,because with enough time thats what your reality will become.

How To Make Many Friends Easily

How to make many friends easily..

With every goal you have in life, people will always be a critical part of it. How fast you reach your goals depends on how well you deal with people and the level of influence you have on them. In order to really influence people you must become a person who is likable. How do you become likable? You must have a sincere interest in other people. Every person on this earth wants to feel important, so you need to treat everyone with the up most importance, because they deserve it. Remember no one is better than you and you are not better than anyone, we are all human beings who deserve the same amount of respect.

Becoming Likable:

Setting the Stage

Your goal in meeting people should be to consciously be the first to initiate and set the stage for conversation. Most people are hesitant to be the first, don’t be like most people step out of your comfort zone. I know that if you are a shy person that this can be one of the hardest things for you to do, but the more you do it, the more you condition your self for it to become second nature. As a small kid I used to be really shy but I noticed that the kids that where outgoing tended to be the happier kids so I began to step out of my comfort zone and now I feel I can walk up to almost anyone. This is going to take time; things don’t happen over night but don’t let this discourage you. Many people feel that for you to become proficient in something takes around five years. Don’t waste anytime, start today and each day after that will get easier. Each different experience will later serve as a reference to remind you, that you can approach almost anyone. By being the first to initiate conversation you also automatically have a certain degree of control, you are able to draw people into your own rhythms. Have you ever noticed how persuasive people are able to seduce you to their ways, dictating your body language and basically synchronizing it to theirs? This is because people naturally imitate other people as a way of communicating with the other person. So if you are the first you get to decide what angle to approach. So if the person you are approaching appears sad, approach them with a big confident smile. Odds are they will slowly begin to smile; you will automatically change their mood. Now you will have a better chance of having a better conversation.

In setting the stage you will need to train your self to pick up any subtle signals that the person you are approaching is giving off. With time you will be able to sum up a person in a blink of an eye and from what your subconscious catches use it help you set the stage. This will require you to have an open mind and immerse your self in as many different worlds/cultures as possible. That’s why I never limit my self to one particular set of friends. I have friends from all sorts of backgrounds. I have friends who are skaters, basketball players, artists, musicians, writers, etc. By having so many friends with diverse interests I quickly learn about their worlds. By knowing what kind of stage to set up you will know how to get the other person to think very highly of you. For example by being observant you will catch the subtleties in the way a person appears to be (The way he is dressed, body language, tone of voice, language, etc.) which will help you to imagine placing your self in there shoes. By really imagining what being that person is like it will give you a good idea of how he/she is feeling. This in turn helps you get a better idea of what appproach to use when trying to communicate effectively with them. When I am able to pick up persons subtleties I will know what topics, questions, and general things that appeal to them which gives me information to work with in the process of winning that person as a friend. Like if know this person is really passionate about cars, I will ask a question with the minimum knowledge I have about something that he knows or thinks he knows a lot about.

Now you set the stage for Mike who will love to tell me exactly why the Mitsubishi EVO is better. When someone is knowledgeable about something it’s in their nature to tell you because it is one more opportunity for them to show how great or smart they are. You have to cater to their ego and never test or contradict their ideas, because their ego will not accept someone who is supposed to know less tell them they are possibly wrong. If I would have told him that I heard that the Subaru WRX is better, we would have just gotten in an argument that he would not have backed out of. But I didn’t and now they will love me for it, because I was taking interest into what he enjoys.

Body Language

Whenever you approach someone for the very first time your body language will do most of the talking and the other person will immediately have a first impression of you. So you must always be aware that whatever you say your body is also in agreement. If you say one thing and your body says the opposite you will come out as someone fake. We have all seen the girl that walks up to another girl and says “I’m so happy to see you…how you been?....you look so good…” but their body language is saying “what are you doing here….I’m not really listening to what your saying” this is easily seen and can be one of the rudest things you can do in trying to make new friends. Always approach someone with open gestures and a smile. If you approach someone with crossed arms, this will automatically make the other person defensive and question your motives. Approach them with open arms and a gentle smile, smiling is infectious if the other person has a stern look on their face the moment youapproach them with a smile you will gradually notice that they will smile too. This usually sets it up for a good conversation because both people are in good moods. Try this - if you’re in a neutral mood right now, put a big smile on your face for no reason if you pay attention you can feel your body changing and your mood immediately start to change. People who are in good moods will place a lot more importance to what you have to say.

Questions and Listening

Your next goal is to sincerely try to find out as much as you can about the person. Ask quality questions; find out what is important to the person, goals, beliefs, interests, etc. The key is to be sincere so the person feels comfortable and is more likely to open up. Try to have a calm demeanor refrain from being overly eager as this might scare the person. You must be able to match the mood of the person. If the person is excited to tell you a story you must become excited as well. If the person is telling you a sad story you must show sincere empathy. Be open minded and really listen to the person.

Listening: Try to listen at least twice as much as you talk. Listening requires more than just pretending to listen or simply hearing a person talk. Listening and hearing are two completely different things and the person can tell if you’re really listening to them, or simply hearing them speak. Being a good listener is a skill, you must become an active listener. Remember this is all about the other person, who cares if you don’t get to talk about your self. In the end the other person will love you for it. They will tell their friends

“Man I really enjoyed talking to that person”….why is that? Was he a very interesting person? “You know what…I really don’t know why…I really don’t know much about him”

This shouldn’t bother you because in the end you greatly benefited from the situation as well. If you’re an effective listener you will gain a better understanding of that person’s thoughts, perspectives, feelings and actions. You have to remember that most people would rather talk than listen, but most of the time this person is not very influential. Take this as an opportunity to become more persuasive and influential.

Sometimes the problem with most people is that listening to them doesn’t have much value. They feel that in order to get people to like them they must do a great deal of the talking. Think about that for a minute, how do you like it when another person is talking so much that when you try and say something they still keep talking. You eventually quit listening to that person because you got to annoyed. Now sometimes you don’t need to do most of the listening, you constantly need to evaluate the situation. Sometimes people really want to hear what you have to say. In this situation still try and get the other person involved and flip around the question that they just asked you.

People who talk too much

1. People always talk about them behind their backs

2. In group settings they feel they always need to say something just to feel like they are contributing.

3. Usually have very big egos

4. They ask questions that they already have the answers too

5. Because they are so focused on having something to say aren’t even listening to what someone is saying.

People Who Listen Effectively

1.Get the whole picture, than they can act accordingly.

2.Everyone loves a good listener so you will make tons of friends.

3.No one talks bad about you, who ever said “man that kid just loves to listen too much”

Good listening is going to really take effort. The reason is that people can think a lot faster than people can speak. What ends up happening is that you begin to think of other things as that person is speaking. Than you become consumed with those thoughts. Next thing you know the other person asks you “So than do you think I did the right thing”. You weren’t listening so you have no idea what to say. This is one of biggest turn offs in trying to become friends with that person.

Things to avoid when Listening

Don’t Interrupt

Because you have the upper hand by thinking faster than someone who is speaking, you will become tempted to interrupt. Don’t because the other person will get the feeling that you don’t care what they are saying and want to bring back the topic of conversation to you. The other person might also have great momentum going in telling you a story, but when you interrupt them their story doesn’t carry as much feeling when they go back to speaking. You also show that you are one of those people who enjoy speaking more than being a good listener. When you interrupt you are also making assumptions of what you think the other person is about to say. This might cause you to miss out completely different information. Because you interrupted them the other person might not even want to continue telling you about it.

Don’t Finish Other Peoples Sentences

Don't Offer Advice too Soon

Compliments + Appreciation

The way to make people feel important is through sincere compliments and appreciation. Most people go out their way to do something, to get other people to notice them, yet most people don’t. Get in the habit of noticing the little things about people. In the end the little things are what matter and what end up making a person unique so pay attention. Next time you see them, be the first to give them a sincere compliment on something even as simple as their hair cut. By making other people feel good about them selves you should also feel good for doing it, it’s a win win situation.

Many times people walk around with the mentality that other people owe them something, nobody owes you anything. Whenever anybody does anything for you show your appreciation and let them know you don’t take anything for granted. Be spontaneous get the person a small gift when they don’t expect it.

Encouragement

Once you find out what is truly important to someone you must provide encouragement. Everyone has dreams and aspirations. Be the one who encourages them to pursue their goals. Any insight or information that’s empowering will provide a boost to their confidence. Most people are so afraid of failure that they will not pursue their goals. They will give you all the reasons why their goals are out of reach. Your goal should be to switch their focus on the negative reasons to the ways how they can make it happen. You have to remember that whatever we focus on becomes our reality, so when you focus only on the negative aspects that’s all you will see. When they give you a reason why they can’t do it, ask them if that’s really a reason or a mere excuse. If they are excuses show them how destructive it is to be in this mental state. Make them realize that all their hopes and dreams are in danger all because of petty excuses. One of the best feelings you will get in dealing with people, is when you get another person excited about his goals or ideas. Now that the person is excited you need to point them in the right direction. Help them research the world they want to be in; find out as much relevant information. Help them create a plan and deadlines that will help them reach their goals. Start with small attainable goals, this will help them gain momentum and than move onto more challenging goals. By being active in the whole process you will build a deeper and more influential relationship with that person. He will not see you as a mere friend but as an ally in their journey to success.

Plan and Organize Social Events

One of the best ways to develop a meaningful experience with someone is through a social event. Whenever you participate in an event or trip your relationship with those people will become even greater. When I studied abroad in Prague I have never developed such strong relationships in such a short amount of time. I met people from all over the world and on the weekends we would take trips to other countries. On these trips I made incredible bonds, because everyone was on an adventure of experiencing new things together. Experiences are always magnified with more people involved. Just think about when you are watching a funny movie all by yourself you begin to laugh but than realize no one is there to enjoy the moment with you and your experience is quickly diminished .

Simple Tips For Teenager Self Confidence

Here are some essential ideas and suggestions to build teenagers self confidence.

First and foremost, just be yourself. If you follow these steps you will become a happier and wealthier teenager. You will have real friends who will always be there for you when you need them. You will have more teenagers self confidence than other teenagers have. People will get to know the real you, some may like you and some may dislike you, but you will always know that the ones who like you genuinely like you for who you are and they will always be loyal to you. You as the teenager with a lot of self confidence will attract more people want to be your friend.

Teenagers clothing. Stop wearing the same thing as everyone else, and wear clothes which are comfortable and make you feel good. Step up from the ordinary teenagers’ crowd and start to build more teenagers self confidence by wearing the right clothing at the right occasions.
Try not to follow others people idea or trends. Try to identify the friends around you. Mix up and communicate with those people who are more expert in your field. Exchange ideas with them and receive the valuable ideas and suggestions from them. During the process, the teenagers self confidence in you will be greatly increase.

Entertainment also can be a great tool to build teenagers self confidence. Listening to inspirational music or watching a movie that you enjoy the most. When you feeling down or something just not going well on that particular day, spend your valuable time listening to music, unwind and recharge yourself to face the reality world again.

Give your opinion confidently. If there is an argument don't just side with the most popular person. Say what you actually believe. People will respect you more. Bring out your guts to present your ideas to the crowd. Make eye contact with the people you are talking to. Let them feels your unlimited teenagers self confidence in you.

Do not tolerate yourself with the questions or problems that you faced. If you are in class don't be afraid to answer a question because you are afraid of looking like an idiot. That is not other easy ways of learning unless we learn from our mistakes since we are teenagers and make asking question as part of our habits.

Body posture plays an important role to build teenagers self confidence. Don't look at the ground when you're walking. Walk faster and confidently no matter where you go. Live up your true teenagers potentials!

Your teenagers self confidence can greatly increase beyond your expectations by following these simple steps.

Self Development Tips !

As long as you are still alive, you are capable of changing and growing. You can do anything you want to do, be anything you want to be. Listen to some positive thoughts on how to continue your self development and then apply them in your own life.

Accept personal responsibility for your own growth; no one can do it for you. What you do today will determine your readiness for tomorrow. Take time every day to do something for yourself. Take classes to stay current in your field of expertise. The world is changing rapidly and you must learn to manage change to avoid obsolescence. The way Will Rogers put this was that "Even if you are on the right track, if you just sit there you will get run over."
Listen to cassette tapes on personal and professional growth topics. Never look back to the past-you only can control your actions in this instant, so what should you be doing right now? Learn from "other people's experience" rather then having to try everything for yourself. It shortens the time needed to learn. Dealing with a problem helps you learn patience and strengthens your management skills; it is good mental exercise. Analyze, in a non-judgmental way, mistakes in which you were involved. It will help you to prevent these in the future. Reward yourself when you catch yourself working on the most important priorities. Never say something can't or won't be done. Keep looking for ways to do it.
After attending a seminar, report to your boss or other people in your organization, what the most important things are that you learned from the program.
For all learning experiences, whether it is reading, seeing, thinking or attending, apply the R squared, A squared formula: Recognize, Relate, Assimilate, and Apply.
These actions will help you grow in the direction of your goals.
Eliminate one time waster a week from your life.
Read a minimum of one chapter of a book a day.
Read a minimum of one book a month.
Be hungry for what life has to offer and go for it.
Decide what you really desire to do-then do it.
When you have the option of reading a book or listening to the cassette tape version of the program, listen to the tape. It will be more to the point and can be done while you are driving, jogging/walking, or getting other routine things done.
Develop a "master mind" group of four or five people with whom you can openly discuss ideas in a nonjudgmental way.
Develop yourself as a resource for others by networking. Find out who does what, when, and for whom. You may find excellent contacts for your future needs and for the needs of others you meet.
Work for balance in your life goals: family, financial, professional, social, spiritual, recreational.
Always keep your goals in mind as you start a new activity.
If you do a lot of work with the calculator, run the machine with the hand you don't use for writing.
Do not be afraid of failing at something. You can learn and change as a result of it.
The most difficult projects are opportunities for your biggest successes just as the most difficult people could become your strongest allies.
Put up pictures of your dreams and goals where you will see them frequently. They will remind you and aid you in focusing and visualizing your goal.
We all have the same 24 hours in a day. Learn from those people who get more done than you do. Perhaps you can find a way to improve what you are doing.
Find a nonjudgmental mentor who will help you by providing feedback, suggestions, challenges and support.
Identify some "models" and observe their style and actions. Do not copy them but learn from their experiences.
Learn from the errors you see others make as well as from their successes.
Fill your mind with positive ideas, thoughts and inspirations and you will have no room left for the negative.
Trade jobs with someone so you gain additional experience.
Ask for and accept lateral moves in the organization so you learn more about the entire operation.
Do more than your "self doubts" say you can.
Have confidence that you can get through and learn from anything and everything you experience.
Reward yourself with a treat when you have completed a learning objective.
Keep a daily journal, recording your thoughts, ideas, feelings and personal growth progress.
Ask questions, listen, then ask more questions. You will learn as well as help others learn. Ask yourself, "How can I manipulate my fate?" Do things with someone you respect. They will be supportive of you and you will learn from interacting with them.
Seek new information on projects for which you have responsibility. Look for new "ah ha" ideas all the time.
Challenge yourself to learn something new every day.
Remain flexible and constantly adaptable.
Be open to others and sincerely interested in them. You can learn from everyone you meet.
Mentally rehearse a new skill. Your subconscious does not know the difference between actual practice and mental rehearsal.
Keep a record of what you accomplished the previous day(s)/week. If you did not accomplish as much as you wanted, it gives you extra incentive to do better in the next time period.
Make notes of the questions you want answered. Then as the answers come to you, jot them down next to the question.
Work on overcoming personal, nonproductive habits; for example: overeating, smoking, gossip.
Keep an "Idea File" ring binder or notebook in which you record all new ideas. At least once a week in a standing appointment with yourself, review your ideas.
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Ten Keys for Success !!!

Personal effectiveness is a matter of style and substance. It’s also a matter of personal values, character, humanness and confidence in the creativity, initiative and capabilities of others. Above all it’s a matter of ‘engaging’ other human beings. Here are ten keys for effectiveness and success.

1. Develop a vision! Planning for the longer term pays off, and working backwards from a vision of the desired end result creates clarity and purpose. People want to follow someone who knows where he or she is going.

2. Simplify! You need to see the big picture in order to set a course, communicate it and maintain it. Keep the details at bay. You also need to then simplify reality and identify the essential activities and action steps to get there. Keep the incessant ‘busy-ness’ at bay. Focus on what really matters in terms of customers, value added and performance.

3. Trust your people! You can’t expect them to go all out for you if they think you don’t believe in them. And they definitely will not go all out if they don’t trust you. Be trustworthy and build trust by ‘trusting’.

4. Keep your cool! The best leaders show their mettle under fire. Stay ‘in command’ with full attention to all of what’s going on.

5. Be an expert! Everyone had better understand that you know what you’re talking about. And even when you don’t know you’re an expert in finding out.

6. Encourage risk! Encourage individuals to take chances and to accept error and failure as an inherent facet of learning and growth. Encourage and unleash the creativity of those around you.

7. Invite dissent! You’re not getting the best or learning how to lead if people are afraid to speak up and engage themselves in what you’re up to. Heat and friction are natural ingredients of energized and high performing individuals and groups.

8. Remove obstacles! Remove obstacles and barriers, and provide the tools, training, systems and structures to act and to grow.

9. Develop ownership! Stimulate self directed action and transfer responsibility and ownership to those who do the work.

10. Tell the truth! There is no more effective method of engaging individuals and making a difference than telling the truth - about what is happening, what you want, how you want to get there, and what you want, need and expect from others. A ‘ruthless commitment’ to telling the truth is perhaps the most liberating and refreshing approach to effectiveness in any context. All part of ‘the quiet work of leadership.’

Daily Planning

God , give me courage to do what is right . Courage to fight for Honesty , Goodness, Justice and Truth . Courage to choose the good in my youth. Courage to own when i 'm in the wrong and Courage to face the day with a song. Courage to guard my thoughts and my tongue . Courage to choose the right when I'm young ......Quest of Excellence
Life is made up of days and hours.

How do you spend the 24 hours in your day? Do you live like a mere passive spectator allowing your days to slip by as you get older and older ?Or do you take care of your days and thereby your life, like a champion who is in control of the situation?

Is your day a part of your life or just another day that comes and goes like a silent breeze stirring nothing inside as well outside? As you spend the day, do you think you are in charge of your time and working for your goals or feel that you just did nothing ?

Remember, each day must in some way contribute to your over all goals. Each day must in some way be connected to the rest of your life. Each day must in some way should contribute to your general welfare and happiness.

There is no exaggeration in stating that you take care of your days and you will take care of your life. Are you conscious of how the time passes in and our of your life each day? Do you plan your activities?

If you are aware of these things, which normally many are, it is great. You are one of those intelligent persons with an eye towards happiness and success. But if you are not doing it for one reason or the other, perhaps some little rethinking may be required.

The following suggestions are helpful in shaping the day and keeping oneself organized. Remember ultimately it is your responsibility to make things happen or to become one of those highly effective people.

1)Wake up early

2)Start the day with some positive thoughts. Use positive affirmations if necessary.

3)Express gratitude for every thing that has been happening in your life.

4)Affirm your faith in God and in your self.

5)Make a resolution to perform at least three kind acts during the day.

6)Select the most important task for the day and resolve to do it as perfectly as possible.

7)Greet your family members with a warm smile and send them your thoughts of love silently.

8)Chose your food carefully, eating only that which do not cause indigestion or flatulence.

9)Spend some time in prayer or total silence.

10)Resolve to spend some quality time with your family members sometime during the day.

11)Try to learn something new during the day, either about your job, yourself, some new word or skill or some new subject.

12)Find time to perform some tasks that contribute towards achieving your life's primary goals.

13)Spend sometime in serious reading to stretch your mind and improve your thinking.

14)Review the days performance as you close the day. Note the areas where you performed satisfactorily and the areas where you need improvement. Can you recollect the happiest moments of the day? Can you summarize what you have learned newly during the day? Think and analyze.

15)If you are interested or if you have time you can maintain a dairy. and write down the important events of the day.

16)Take adequate rest.

17)Look for tomorrow with a positive mind.

18)And finally consider the following:

If the average life span of a person is 100 years, he has 36500 days only to live. Of this at least for 5000 days (say from the age of 85 onwards) he would be too old to undertake any exerting activity. From the remaining 31500 days subtract the number of days you have already spent.

How many days are then left in your account? And how do you propose to spend them? Just think about it.

Body Language

Eye contact is the most obvious way you communicate. When you are looking at the other person, you show interest. When you fail to make eye contact, you give the impression that the other person is of no importance. Maintain eye contact about 50% of the time in order to look interested, but not aggressive.

Facial expression is another form of non-verbal communication. A smile sends a positive message and is appropriate in all but a life and death situation. Smiling adds warmth and an aura of confidence. Others will be more receptive if you remember to check your expression.

Your mouth gives clues, too, and not just when you are speaking. Mouth movements, such as pursing your lips or twisting them to one side, can indicate that you are thinking about what you are hearing or that you are holding something back.

The position of your head speaks to people. Keeping your head straight, which is not the same as keeping your head on straight, will make you appear self-assured and authoritative. People will take you seriously. Tilt your head to one side if you want to come across as friendly and open.

How receptive you are is suggested by where you place your arms. Arms crossed or folded over your chest say that you have shut other people out and have no interest in them or what they are saying. This position can also say, "I don't agree with you." You might just be cold, but unless you shiver at the same time, the person in front of you may get the wrong message.

How you use your arms can help or hurt your image as well. Waving them about may show enthusiasm to some, but others see this gesture as one of uncertainty and immaturity. The best place for your arms is by your side. You will look confident and relaxed. If this is hard for you, do what you always do when you want to get better at something - practice. After a while, it will feel natural.

The angle of your body gives an indication to others about what's going through your head. Leaning in says, "Tell me more." Leaning away signals you've heard enough. Adding a nod of your head is another way to affirm that you are listening.

Posture is just as important as your grandmother always said it was. Sit or stand erect if you want to be seen as alert and enthusiastic. When you slump in your chair or lean on the wall, you look tired. No one wants to do business with someone who has no energy.

Control your hands by paying attention to where they are. In the business world, particularly when you deal with people from other cultures, your hands need to be seen. That would mean you should keep them out of your pockets and you should resist the urge to put them under the table or behind your back. Having your hands anywhere above the neck, fidgeting with your hair or rubbing your face, is unprofessional.

Legs talk, too. A lot of movement indicates nervousness. How and where you cross them tells others how you feel. The preferred positions for the polished professional are feet flat on the floor or legs crossed at the ankles. The least professional and most offensive position is resting one leg or ankle on top of your other knee. Some people call this the "Figure Four." It can make you look arrogant.

The distance you keep from others is crucial if you want to establish good rapport. Standing too close or "in someone's face" will mark you as pushy. Positioning yourself too far away will make you seem standoffish. Neither is what you want so find the happy medium. Most importantly, do what makes the other person feel comfortable. If the person with whom you are speaking keeps backing away from you, stop. Either that person needs space or you need a breath mint.

Accomplish Big Goals in Three Steps

When was the last time you ate an elephant? I'm sure you want to know "Why would I do that?" How about something tastier? How do you eat a 1,000 pound marshmallow? Is that better? The answer is the same either way: One bite at a time!

Now, I doubt that you want to eat either an elephant or a 1,000 pound marshmallow. But, do you have a big goal? Does it seem overwhelming but yet something you really want to accomplish? Is the goal so big that you just can't figure out how to "just do it"?

This isn't abnormal, it's more normal than you think. Most of us have some big goals, things we want to accomplish that will take concentrated effort over a long period of time. We all have a 1,000 pound marshmallow to eat from time to time so we'll each need to decide how to eat it one bite at a time! How can we do that?


Step 1: Analyze

The first step is to examine your goal and determine what smaller, more managable goals will lead to the accomplishment of the large goal. Years ago I was working for a computer company that had its own huge goal. (In fact, that's the first time I had heard the question "How do you eat a 1000 pound marshmallow"!) We were going to develop a brand new computer with all new hardware, all new software, all new everything!

Step 1 was very important because we had to know what all the pieces would be before we could plan how to put them together. Your big goal is like that too. What are all the "pieces" that you'll need to accomplish in and of themselves before you can bring everything together to achieve your goal? This is an important part of the process, so do the analysis carefully and get help if you can't answer all the questions yourself.

So, in Step 1 you need to analyze where you are right now. You can't really start working toward the goal until you understand how big the project will be. What, exactly, is the goal you want to achieve? Do you need additional skills or education? How much time and effort will you be able to apply on a regular basis? Are you going to need someone guiding you along the way, or can you create your plan on your own? If you have a big goal, you need to do a thorough analysis of what needs to be done before you start.

Here's a tip. Take your time with this step and do it carefully and you'll gain a lot of time as you progress down the road. The time you spend analyzing and planning the achievement of your goal is not time spent, it's time invested and it will pay great dividends as time passes!

So, step 1 is where you really examine the marshmallow and figure out how you will divide it into bite-sized pieces so you can eat the whole thing!

Step 2: Plan Your Work
Now that you've analyzed your goal and how you can achieve it you can begin planning how and when you're going to accomplish each bite-sized piece. From your analysis, you know what the pieces are and whether there's a particular order in which they should be accomplished.

You need to create a plan that's broken down into those "bite-sized" pieces. By doing this, you will be identifying the incremental steps you will be achieving on your path to the goal. Be sure that each step provides meaningful progress toward your goal, but don't make them so large that they seem insurmountable. If you do this right, you will move from one step to the next with a good attitude because you have accomplished something significant (in the step you just completed); and you will have no problem believing that you can accomplish the next one as well.

As you develop your plan, you'll find Some things will have to be done in a chronological order while others can be done in parallel. When you can work items in parallel, you reduce the total time it will take to reach your goal.

Remember that computer project I told you about? We didn't need to wait for the processor to be completely built and running before we started developing the software. These things could be done at the same time. But, they both had to be done before we could do any testing of the complete product. That step had to wait for the right time in the project before it could be attempted.

How does this apply to your goals? Perhaps you have a career goal that will require additional education but also require that you to obtain specific job experience. You can probably attend college classes at night while you gain your job experience at your job during the day. You can work on these steps concurrently. By doing so, your job experience and your education will both be recent and relavent when you are ready for the next step.

Step 2 is another high-return investment that you are making in your goal achievement. Be sure to give it the time and concentration it deserves.

Step 3: Work Your Plan

Now it's time to start eating that marshmallow! You are now ready to work your plan. You know you have a good plan and that it will take you to your goal. If you've done your plan carefully you will have milestones (or checkpoints) built in that will demonstrate your progress and give you the positive feedback you'll need to keep going.

Remember that marshmallow? Basically, you've marked it up so you'll know how big the pieces need to be as you cut them. If you cut them too large, they'll be too hard to chew. (Can you imagine putting too much marshmallow in your mouth and having to deal with it?) But, if you cut the pieces too small, you'll munch away and never seem to be making any progress.

As you complete each step you're making progress and probably gaining more motivation as you go. Why? Because you are experiencing the good feelings of accomplishment, and you are showing yourself more and more that you really can achieve your goal. As you do this, you are actually increasing your motivation AND your momentum!

So, work your plan, track your progress, and reward yourself as you accomplish significant pieces of your plan.

Go ahead, eat that marshmallow! Just remember what your mother taught you about not putting too much food in your mouth at once and to chew each bite thoroughly before swallowing. Soon your "meal" will be finished and you'll be looking for the next one. (whatever happened to that elephant...maybe you're ready for it next!)

Mastering Your Mind Power: Affirm, Affirm, Affirm!

Armed with a list of the things, conditions, circumstances, and people you truly want in your life, how do you now give the items on your list the best possibility of becoming your new consistent thoughts? Actually, you use the same process you used to make your the items on your DO NOT WANT list your consistent thoughts. The major difference is you are now going to be conscious and aware of the process. You now also have your own clearly defined objectives in mind.

What is the process? If you will think back to your very earliest learning experiences, whether it was learning to crawl, to walk, to master the alphabets, or to read, the process was basically one of spaced repetition. Your parents or caregiver would coax you into the activity and engage you in it for a short while. They would likely affirm how well you were doing, heap lots of praise and positive reinforcement upon you, and leave the activity behind for a time. They would later repeat the pattern of coaxing, engaging, affirming, reinforcing, and leaving the activity behind again.

When it came to learning what is now DO NOT WANT activities and behavior, coaxing, in many cases, gradually became demands. Most of the other components of the process remained intact. Pretty simple, is it not?

You are an adult now, and as your DO NOT WANT list will verify, you have lots of mental baggage to discard if you are going to successfully master your mind power and move yourself more toward the kinds of life experiences you desire. Discarding, in this case, really means developing new consistent thoughts and behavioral patterns that are the exact opposite of those you are leaving behind.

A couple of the components in the process will require a significant shift in emphasis. Repeating affirmations will now take center stage in the process, followed closely by positive reinforcement. In my most humble opinion, the use of affirmations is the most powerful free tool available to you and other people of sound mind to take control of your mind power and put it to use for your ends.

As you begin to use affirmations, I think you will understand why I feel so strongly that at least an overview of the self image (personality, ego, map of reality, etc.) is so important. You should be alerted that particularly early on, the self image is going to be extremely active attempting to convince you that your effort to change your life is a waste of time.

It has an arsenal of fears, doubts, and phobias to inject into your thinking process, and it will regularly attempt to direct you back into the direction of your old familiar DO NOT WANT world. Perhaps the most popular trick it uses is to allow you to repeat your affirmation and just as you are ending it, the self image will then ease a tail-ender into your regimen. A tail-ender is a very subtle thought that is in reality the reverse of the affirmation you just completed.

This I know for sure. You can claim or re-claim control of your own mind power. You are the most miraculous of all living beings on earth. You are the owner of a mind that is so stupendous, that as you truly begin mastering your mind power and consciously using it, there is no dream that you can dream that you cannot achieve.

How to Recognize Your Psychic Ability

More and more people are trying to seek psychic helps for their problems that they think can only be understood by psychic. Besides helping these sufferers, you can make a good income if you learn or to be more exact recognize your psychic abilities and polish them accordingly. Here are some ways that can help you to utilize your psychic abilities like a true genuine psychic.



Try to know who you are

If have the knack to explore yourself and your feeling time by time, you can develop a psychic ability in yourself .Try to peep in tomorrow and then compare your predictions with the current occurrences of that day. One day you will surely be able to predict about future events in a very precise way.

Choose a right guru

You can have best knowledge of your psychic ability if you seek help of a right guru who can guide you about the ups and downs of this way and make you feel confidence about your abilities.

Practice makes man perfect

You must keep in mind that hard work never goes unrewarded and sooner or later you begin to get the reward of your hard work. So, try to do some practice daily with complete devotion and seriousness to develop your psychic abilities.

Test your abilities time by time

You can test your abilities with your friends and family .You get more and more confidence if you begin to help people out with your abilities.

Help others out from distress

Nothing is fairer than to help others out from distress, in this way you not only get satisfaction but also begin to win others respect. So, always try to utilize your abilities for the good of others and soon you will find your psychic abilities at its peak.

Factors that affect your psychic abilities

Meditations, right food, connecting to nature and exercises are those factors that help you a lot to increase your psychic abilities.

Believe in your abilities

Once you get confidence and begin to believe in your abilities, it becomes quite easier for you to cover the rest of the distance that goes towards your psychic goal.


Help others to develop their psychic abilities

The best way to retain or enhance your psychic powers is to teach these abilities to others. Tell the people how did you develop your psychic abilities and how can they develop theirs.

If you find signs in yourself to be a psychic, you must explore your abilities with seriousness and devotion keeping in mind that you have been gifted with these abilities and all you need is to explore them.

Boost Your Self-Confidence by Just Looking Better

Confidence is a feeling of self reliance, a sentiment that is often associated with self esteem. Confidence is more often related to beauty, especially amongst women. If a person feels beautiful and looks it, while receiving significant attention, this can help to boost up their self confidence immensely.

Everybody likes to look beautiful and graceful and in turn, improve their self confidence. You too can achieve this satisfactory feeling by paying extra attention to your looks. Give it a try and be amazed at the difference it would make in your life.

How do you enhance your natural beauty? Do you have to create a dent in your bank balance and follow very complicated procedures? No, not at all, by following some simple steps on a regular basis, with extra care on your day to day maintenance of yourself, you too can become a noticeable beauty.

Beauty can be categorized as physical beauty and spiritual beauty. If you aim to achieve both aspects, then you will be able to retain your youth and looks for a longer period. Spiritual beauty is the feeling that comes from within, by feeling good about yourself and by practicing good thoughts about your surroundings. It is a cleansing of the body from within, which helps heighten your looks and gives you a healthy glow that will inevitably enhance your physical features.

Physical beauty too can be achieved by following a few simple steps on a routine basis. Learn to practice the following tips in your daily schedule, and you will discover amazing changes in the way you look and present yourself to the world.

1. Take care of your main attributes, your hair, skin and face

Pay individual attention to your hair, skin and face. Maintain the health of your hair and follow a regular routine to keep it shining and beautiful. Style your hair to suit your features and visit a beautician if you need extra help in maintaining your crowning glory.
Sustain the moisture in your skin and avoid wrinkles and sunburns. Use regular moisturizer lotions, day creams, sunscreens and night lotions to retain the youth and elasticity of your skin. Opt for natural ingredients as much as you can, adhering to home remedies and simple procedures known to work wonders.

Take care when applying makeup and make it a point to enhance your features in the most natural manner possible. Use eye makeup carefully, avoiding excess use and applying enough to heighten your best features. Apply foundation only when the need arises, trying to improve your natural color as much as possible. Use a night cream on your face to avoid wrinkles and unwanted lines.

2. Eat healthily and heartily

Watch your diet; eat regular healthy and hearty meals. No, you don’t have to go on strict diet routines to maintain your body shape. 3 healthy meals a day, with enough vitamins and nutrients to give you strength to carry out your daily chores is an important practice to follow. Eat your meals from the heart; let the food digest well by taking time with your meals. Try not to rush your meals, at least have one sit down meal with your family. Include fruits, vegetables and green leaves in your regular meals, all of which helps improve your skin tones.

3. Drink plenty of water

Our body needs water to carry out its functions in a healthy manner. Drinking plenty of water is a known remedy to stay fit and healthy. Make it a practice to drink several glasses of water in the morning, before any meals, as it helps cleanse your digestive system. Drinking enough water helps to clear your skin, giving you a beautiful and smooth complexion.

4. Exercise to stay fit

Whether you are over-weight or thin, exercise is important to your body. It helps maintain your physique as well as improves your fitness level. A fit person will always present a pleasant image and this in turn will help enhance your beauty.

5. Improve your surroundings and mood

Make your surroundings cheerful, associate with happy, friendly people, and improve your disposition. Pleasant temperament will undoubtedly result in enhanced beauty. It is amazing how a positive outlook will help improve the way you present yourself to the world and make people see you in a different light. A pleasant individual always appears beautiful to the beholder.

It is evident that to look beautiful, you needn’t follow any strict or complicated rituals. Good, general practices work much better in improving your looks and boosting your self confidence. Make a pledge to practice a healthy routine from today, pay extra attention to your looks and let the result help improve your self esteem.

Anger Management Techniques

Anger is one of the most common and destructive emotions and it afflicts our mind almost every day. We need to empower ourselves with anger management techniques so as to solve our problem of anger. Anger management techniques are easy to apply especially when anger gets over us and our physical wellbeing. It is important to know anger management techniques to help us cope with situations everyday.

What is anger? Anger is a natural human emotion and it is an adaptive nature which empowers us to "ward off" any attacks or threats to our well being.

However, it sometimes can cause us to focus on the bad qualities of an animate or inanimate object, make it unattractive and increase our desires to perform negative actions on it. But the truth is, anger is not a problem but the mismanagement of anger. Mismanaged anger and rage cause us to face conflicts and difficulties in our personal and professional relationships. Thus, we must know anger management techniques in order to cope better with it.

Anger management techniques are simple to apply but we must first recognize the anger within our mind and acknowledge that it is harmful to both our selves and others. The idea of being tolerant and patient is central in anger management techniques because it is when we lose our tolerance and patience that we begin to feel angry.

In addition, anger management techniques are really just practical methods that can be applied in our daily lives to help us reduce our anger and finally to prevent it from arising at all. They can help us because excessive anger can cause health problems, family issues, drug or alcohol abuse, financial despair, extreme fear or stress, and spiritual void. Domestic abuse, road rage, workplace violence, divorce, and addiction are just a few examples of what happens when anger is mismanaged.

To get started with applying anger management techniques, you need to admit that your anger is out-of-control is essential to tackling the problem of anger. This requires honesty, courage, and tremendous inner strength. And also requires help from others.

When in a situation that needs you to apply anger management techniques, be consciously determined to be calm and communicate and express slowly what you are feeling. Look at the positive side and try to look at the situation from another point of view. Try to relax at the same time and just think about something good to distract yourself from the overwhelming feeling of anger. In addition, you can regulate your breathing to become slow and relaxed to allow you to think and react better in the situation.

Remember that anger management techniques help you to control your anger to the best of your physical well being, social functioning and relationships! Uncontrolled anger only results in added troubles to your life and controlling your anger is a choice you can make!

How To Face A Problem

Don’t Run Away, Face It… PROBLEM!!

One fine Sunday around 10.30 p.m., I heard a loud noise and later I found somebody was knocking my door. I went and opened the door and asked “Who are you, how can I help you?” but the reply was so unusual “please calm down yourself. Once I tell my name people usually get scared and became nervous.” the voice said, “People call me as PROBLEM, I hope now you got it. Now tell me, do you want me to come inside”? I said, “You are most welcome my dear friend and let me have the pleasure of being with you for sometime.

Others may treat you as an enemy but I consider you as a part of life and I am even ready to keep your company for my entire journey. But one request, my friend, please excuse me from tomorrow onwards come soon, please don't disturb my sleep.” Next day PROBLEM came and knocked the door again, I went and opened the door, today I found one more problem and this problem was different from the previous one. I requested them again - please come as early as possible, don't disturb my sleep.”

Tuesday night, PROBLEM came along with its team and knocked the door again, I went and opened the door and said “welcome to this optimistic world and good night to you all…” Next day the problem came with a large group of problems and was shocked because the door was kept open for them this time; I became very clever and put them under pressure and told “You see, you can no longer disturb my sleep.” After sometime there were innumerable problems in his room. The first problem came to my side and asked me how I felt about it. I said “I have no problem, but do you feel comfortable here. I keep striding on my way, you neither can prevent me nor can you divert me,” saying this he moved on. “Don't try to solve all the problems, sometime one should know how to hold the problem and tackle it when problem gets weaker or when you became stronger.”