The Power Of Words

The Written Word is a very powerful tool.....It is this power that is unleashed by writers and content creators.

There are many ways of saying something through your words. But for saying it right and getting the desired results, it is important to follow the right style and go with the flow!! When you write something, make sure that your pen does the talking.

More and more website owners are realizing just how important content is for their website. Infact, content is the most important of elements and the driving force behind the success of the website. This makes Content Writing important and definitely very interesting!

Let's take an example of a website selling a product. The content will act as the salesman for the product. Though the salesman is absent physically in this case, the content on the website takes his place to convince the visitors and prospective buyers.

This is what the content should actually do when it plays the part of a salesman! -

Talk to the visitors

Catch their attention and interest

Let them know how the product will benefit them.

Convince, coax and cajole them into buying the product.

And do all of this in as little time as possible!!!!

It is the content thus, which will guide the visitors and eventually push them to take the desired action, which in this case is to order and buy the product!!

When writing for the web, content should be terse, to the point and should have the ability to force an action or get the desired result.

Expression- The Power of Words

Sing, laugh, jump ,read, work, cry, roar, shout, gaze, dance ,love, write, feel ,do anything...but when you do it ,let it come straight from the heart.

Confused?
All I'm trying to say is that when you want to do something in this world, if you want to reach somewhere, show something, prove something, be someone.. give it your all. show a zeal, a spark that would enlighten the path in front of you and show you the path to success.

If you have a flair for seeing flowers when there are none, if you feel what no one else can feel and you have the ability to express it through your words or actions, don't stop.

Not all of us are gifted with IMAGINATION and CREATIVITY. More importantly very few of us want to show that facet of ours which dares to express what we feel. Let us focus here on one such wing of creativity, the ultimate ex-pression of your flights of fantasy the delicate and fine art of WRITING.

WHO are the successful authors? These JK Rowling, Salman Rushdie, Anurag Mathur? They are one of us. Only ,these are the people who boarded the ship of their imagination and let the sea of their take its course, even thought its full of storms and high tides. Once they are on that ship, there's no looking back. They find new routes, new stories, new ideas to enthrall you, entertain you, to make you laugh and cry just with their words! Just imagine the power of the human mind, it can take control of your senses through sheer ex-pression. Every story that comes out of a writers brain is connected to his own life in one way or the other. There's nothing in this world known as PURE FICTION. We are all real people so are the thoughts, so when someone tells you fiction requires a thought that isn't there for real, don't believe it. Somewhere ,someone, knows how that thought became a reality.

Writing anything, your diary, some story, article, even books, is an art. One cant acquire it. Its inborn...all you need to do is nurture it and polish it n let your creative input flow! Never write for the sake of writing, its not just a profession, its a passion, so savour it, every moment that u spent feeling it inside you would reflect in the outcome. And bring you closer to realising your dream of becoming a writer or author.

So if you think that there is magic in your words, if you know how to make your words touch someone's heart ,take the plunge and lets the music flow from your fingers! See it transform into a beautiful dancing angel who is loved by one and all.. or as a fat paycheck that would delight your material instincts for a long long time.

so grab that pen if you think you have it in you.. its never too late!

Letting Science Touch Base with Decision Making

Scientists and researchers come together to discuss issues of sustainable development at an annual summit in New Delhi.

Get involved." This is the message that F. Sherwood Rowland, a Nobel laureate in chemistry, urges for governments taking on the menacing reality of climate change.

"Rather than fanciful suggestions for mitigating global warming-from carbon sucking technologies to planting sulfuric acid in the atmosphere to serve as a shield from the sun's ultraviolet rays and cool global temperatures-the issue will need a unity of purpose from all countries," Rowland told delegates at a three-day summit in New Delhi on sustainable development and climate change. While global warming may already be visible in the early melting of Alaskan ice or polar caps and is probably not seen on the sunny beaches of California, it is not going to be limited to one region or continent alone.

The summit, organized in February by The Energy and Resources Institute, has become an important landmark for those committed to finding a globally acceptable and socially inclusive solution to the problem of climate change. The goal of sustainable development is to allow Third World communities to improve their lives without destroying their own environment and future.

One of the natural processes of reducing carbon dioxide in the atmosphere is photosynthesis, a beneficial activity of plants. However, people living near forests are tempted to chop them down and need ideas on how to earn their livelihood from them, instead.

Rowland, who is research professor of chemistry and earth system science at the University of California, Irvine, won the Nobel Prize in 1995 with Paul Crutzen and Mario Lolina for work in atmospheric chemistry, particularly concerning the formation and decomposition of the ozone layer.

Rowland says the increase in carbon dioxide and a related increase in global temperature have been well documented over the last 200 years, with the rise being most pronounced during the last three decades. According to some scientists, even if the human race were to stop carbon emissions from the next second, the damage to the planet is now irreversible. "We have understood the dynamics of climate change. Now we just need some degree of an effort to find a solution," says Rowland. "The time to act is now."

Making An Impression

The Frank Museum's first display of Indian art showcases contemporary prints.

Contemporary Indian printmaking is on display for the first time at Otterbein College's Frank Museum of Art in Westerville, Ohio, in an exhibition titled "Current Impressions." Selected by New York-based printmaker and curator Vijay Kumar, the 35 prints are in different media including etchings, serigraphs, woodcuts, engravings, aquatints and lithographs.

There were three criteria when Kumar asked the 29 artists to submit their work. First, the prints had to be made by traditional, hands-on methods. "I did not want to include digital (computer-generated) images or scanned-image reproductions," he says. Second, the prints had to be on paper no larger than 56 by 76 centimeters, to make them easy to ship to the United States. Third, the prints had to be recent, done since 2004.

"I am especially pleased that several artists produced a new print series in response to the invitation to submit work for this exhibition," says Kumar, whose first memory of printing dates back to his childhood in Lucknow, Uttar Pradesh, where he saw woodblock printing on fabric.

The works depict a variety of themes and sensibilities. While Walter D'Souza says "Tricycle," which is part of his series "Ticket to Ride," is a comment about "the present scenario we are journeying through in the subcontinent," Hemavathy Guha's "The Clown" lends itself to multiple interpretations with its use of the traditional clown mask to show moods ranging from glee to pathos.

"I've tried to transform the subtle tones and rhythms of various musical compositions into visual forms," says Bhawani Shankar Sharma of his "Color Symphony."

"The imagery in a few prints can identify their country of origin, but this is not true of most," says Kumar, who planned the show to be diverse in both style and theme. "Some work is humorous, some narrative, some mostly concerned with issues of composition and color. Images by several artists involve galaxies and outer space, many include figures, but all are quite personal."

So, from the rich hues of Uttam Kumar Basak's "Intimacy," the folk motifs in Shahid Parvez's "Friends" to the multidimensional perspectives in Yashpal Chandrakar's "Ten Windows," the exhibition provides a glimpse of the varied palette contemporary Indian printmaking has to offer.

"I attempt to create humor in my work, which comes from the perception and depiction of the incongruities of existence which are always present in the folk and tribal art forms from which I draw my inspiration," says Parvez.

"I look at the scene with a child's curious mind, full of richness as well as complexity. The overall treatment is a subtle blend of an adult's experience and a childlike fantasy."

Other artists participating in the exhibition include Dattatraya Apte, Rajan Fulari, Hanuman Kambli, Vijay Kumar, Avijit Roy and K.R. Subbanna.

The museum is located in Westerville, a suburb of Columbus, Ohio, in the house of Lillian Frank, who taught art, theology and philosophy at Otterbein College for 29 years. With the help of her husband, Paul, she converted the former Salem Evangelical Church, built in 1877, into a residence in 1956. The structure was given to the college after she died in 1999, for the purpose of creating a museum for the college's collection. It opened in 2004.

According to museum director Nicholas Hill, small private colleges in Ohio agreed to focus their art collections in particular areas many years ago in order to maximize their resources.

"The Frank Museum of Art has a mission of exhibiting global art exclusively. We have had several…of African and Japanese works but nothing from India," says Hill. "Another reason for the selection of an Indian exhibition was that there is a large Indian American population in the Columbus, Ohio, area."

The exhibition, which is open from April 2 to June 6, came about because of Hill's contact with Kumar at the Manhattan Graphic Center in New York City. Kumar had coordinated a major U.S.-Indian print exhibition in 2004-06 that traveled to India, and Hill's work was included in the show.

Later, when Hill was planning upcoming events he invited Kumar to curate the Indian print exhibition.

Kumar has planned several Indian art shows in the United States, particularly in the New York City region. "There are now more than 10 galleries in Manhattan that show primarily contemporary art from India. Many of their clients are of Indian heritage," he says. Recently, long-established galleries like Marlborough in New York City have also begun exhibiting work by Indian artists.

"Whether or not Indian contemporary art will come to the mainstream of American art only time will tell," he says.

I Think I Can. I Think I Can. Can I?

I think I can. I think I can. Can I?

Your mental train ticket to self-empowerment

We all find ourselves at certain points in our lives holding first class tickets to negative mental trains of thought. Michele Wahlder (MS, LPC, PCC), a two-time cancer survivor and Dallas, Texas-based Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist, has placed thousands of people on the right track to self-empowerment via a plan she calls the 5 C Process. The journey challenges individuals to:

One

Clarify Current View – Where are you now- honestly?

Conscious awareness of your current view is the first step in becoming the best you can be. Getting clear about how your life aligns with your values, talents and unique gifts is vital to your happiness. You need to know where you are in order to learn where you want to go.

You can clarify your current view by completing a review of eight life areas. Be honest with yourself about how happy are you with your profession, finances, health and overall well-being, primary relationships, personal development, spirituality, environment, hobbies, etc.

Two

Connect with Your Highest Vision – Where do you want to be?

Example: A client of mine, a yoga instructor, decided she was happy teaching but wanted to contribute to the world on a larger level. She wasn’t happy with the quality of the yoga clothing that was accessible to her and her fellow yogis. Her vision was to design and create fun, hip and timeless yoga clothes using eco-conscious fabrics.

You have to get really clear about what you want. It is crucial that you connect to your highest vision of yourself because you can’t create it unless you are clear about what it looks like. If you don’t have a vision of where you want to go or what you want to be, you will most likely NOT get there. To quote Henrietta Klauser, “If you have a connection to what you want, take the next step and write it down.” If you don’t have any idea about what you want, or how you want to be in life to bring about greater happiness, begin looking through magazines and create a Vision Board/Collage of what attracts you. You may also want to consider getting an outside perspective from a friend or a professional coach. I take my clients through a guided imagery that gives them a glimpse of what their future could look like. There are also books that can help guide you. Just get help assessing your talents, divine gifts and abilities and then determine how you want to use them more fully in the world. We can’t help others as fully, if we are not aware of how we can best serve. So instead of thinking of it as selfish to engage in knowing yourself better, I would suggest you consider it selfish to hold back and not be the best you can be. Only in this way, can we help the world and others.

Three

Create Inspiring Goals – How will you get there?

Example: My client created a tiered plan of what needed to happen step by step – outer goal. All of this was influenced by her inner goal of keeping a measured pace and a balanced life. Her goal was to enjoy the process.

You have to create a plan and take specific actions to get you from where you are now to where you want to be. When most people write goals, they just write a list of action steps, usually external actions. I believe it is more powerful to have inner and outer goals. An outer goal is what you want. For instance, you might think, “I want a new house”. An inner goal is more focused on the how. How will a new home benefit me and my family? Will it offer more common gathering areas, a larger kitchen so that we can cook together, etc.? How can I appreciate what I have now until I get this home? How can I make this a joyful experience rather than a stressful one? If you can not be grateful for what you have now, then when you get a new home, it will only create very short-term happiness for you. Then, you will be focused on the next external illusion of happiness. For 2008, I suggest taking at least three of the life areas I mentioned earlier and jot down how you couldbenefit from living your highest vision in each area. Next, add action steps toward your desired achievements along with completion dates.

Four

Clear Obstacles – How will you remove obstacles in your way?

We all have dreams and visions for our life, but frankly, there are many things that can get in the way. The two most common obstacles I see with my clients are:

The inability to say NO— In order to bridge the gap from your current view to your highest vision, you have to make room for what “Could Be”. If your life is full and you want to add more of the things that are truly important in your life, you should start the change process by making room first. You must say no to some things in your life, so you can say yes to what is most important. You have to give up the destructive habits, behaviors and activities to make room for new ones.

A metaphor would be a water hose watering a flowering plant. The water in the hose is your life force and the flowering plant is what you are trying to grow in your life. If the water hose has leaks, it will not have enough water or life force/energy to reach its desired outcome or vision (to grow the plant into full bloom). Examples of leaks might include toxic friendships, unrealistic expectations, watching too much television, eating sugar, overspending, negative relational patterns with your spouse or working on an outdated job.

Example: A client’s obstacle here was that her 8- year-old daughter needed caring for and she was afraid she wouldn’t be able to be a good mother plus jumpstart a successful, new business. We remedied this issue by getting clear on the proper definition of a good mother. Also, practically speaking, she needed help picking up her daughter from school. So she got her husband to assist her in this area so she would have time to create this new business.

Negative self-talk—Research shows we have approximately 50,000 internal messages we say to ourselves daily. We are constantly walking around having conversations with ourselves. And it is what we say that makes all the difference in the overall quality of our lives.

Example: I was once in Starbucks, and I watched this woman spill her coffee while reaching for a sugar packet and I heard her say out loud, “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”

Now, I just happen to hear her, but this is an example of something you might say internally as well. You might think, “No big deal. I say things like this to myself all the time.” Well, IT IS A BIG DEAL as our subconscious hears these messages and acts on them as if they were real. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t want someone else saying to you.

Think of self-talk like mental fuel. Now, imagine filling your car with dirty water. We all know you wouldn’t get very far. Now, take that same car and fill it with high quality gasoline. You’ll most likely reach your destination. It is the same with people and the words we use. If the words are negative and toxic, we will sputter along with low energy and our performance suffers. If our words are positive and tender, we will feel confident, energized, encouraged and will most likely meet our goals faster and easier. Here are some key things to remember if you ever find yourself preparing to board the train of BAD self-talk:

B– stands for belittling self-talk. Stop telling yourself, “I am not good enough.” If your dream is to have a healthy self-confidence, which of the following examples is more likely to get your there:

A. “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”

B. “Whoops, mistakes happen.”

Can you see how the Answer B is much kinder?

A – stands for awfulizing. Stop predicting a future filled with gloom and doom, and dwelling on scary thoughts. If you dream of obtaining a career you love, which of the following will move you closer to your vision:

A. “I did terribly on my interview, I’ll never find a job I like.”

B. “I will answer that question on past employment differently next time and I will ace it! I know I will one day have the job I love.”

Can you see how Answer B places you in the mindset of a successful job search?

D – stands for deceiving. This is when you deceive yourself into thinking you are a victim, and that other people are to blame for your circumstances. If we want a happy relationship which will of the below responses will aid in achieving this goal:

A. “If my spouse would only do more around the house, then I would be happy.”

B. “I can and will choose happiness today, no matter what my spouse does.”

Answer B is the right choice, wouldn’t you agree?

S – stands for shoulding – This is when you give yourself a lot of shoulds, musts, and ought tos, then beat yourself up for not living up to unrealistic standards. Say your dream is to be in top physical condition, which will further that:

A. “I should have eaten a salad for lunch instead of that big ol’ hamburger. I’m such a pig!”

B. “I could have eaten a salad, but I chose not to. Tomorrow I will make healthier choices.”

The second choice is so much more inspiring, don’t you think?

Five

Commit to Action – Are you willing to do what it takes?

The final step of the 5 C Process is to commit to action. How many times have we all made plans and never carried them out, or started off excited and lost motivation? No one ever does anything great alone. We all need encouragement and support from others including an accountability partner who is willing to help hold the vision of the person you want to be. In the previous example of my client, her biggest negative self-talk was how to be a good mom and a good business woman. Her thoughts were, “If I don’t pick up my child every day from school, I am a bad mother.” Instead, we replaced it with, “Picking up my child from school daily is not what makes me a good mother. I am, indeed, a fabulous mother.”

Here are the four action steps that have been proven to help you eliminate your negative self talk:

• Become aware of your negative messages –listen to voice in head

• Stop! You have to stop immediately if you find yourself dwelling on any negative thoughts

• Replace negative thoughts with a kinder alternatives

• Practice. It takes a commitment of time in order to turn a pattern of negative thinking into a more positive train of thought.

Creating Your Vision

Creating Your Vision

"Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one" Albert Einstein

I feel that one of the most important ingredients in your formula for success is having a clearly defined and vivid vision of where you want to be. At first the “how” is not that important, you need to create a vision that gets you so excited that you develop the mentality that you will stop at nothing to get what you want. Many people first focus on the how than very quickly find themselves overwhelmed with too many details and just as quickly talk them selves out of pursuing their goals. You have to take a leap of faith and trust that the how will be shown to you as you go along. Do you remember the days as a kid with dreams of epic proportions? What happened those dreams? You got older and domesticated by a society that says that having those dreams is foolish. That’s nonsense, why wouldn’t you want to accomplish the things that even as a kid you knew would make you happy. I encourage you to dream like you once used to.

“Shoot for the moon…even if you

Miss you’ll still be amongst them stars”- Beanie Sigel(rap artist)

One way I keep myself motivated and keep my vision alive is through my picture book. In my book I have everything that I want and every morning I look at it to remind me what I want in life. Go right now and get some magazines and cut out every picture of the things you want and places you want to visit, don’t be thinking if you can actually get those things now, dare to dream. Remember your mind thinks in pictures, look at your picture book until in becomes as vivid as possible in the theater of your mind. Your mind cant tell the difference between something you remember or something you experience in real time.

Visualization Exercises(meditation):

(Please read this whole section, I will explain why almost all self help fails to produce the results people want)

You can think of meditation as conscious sleeping. Just as you sleep to gain energy for your daily functioning, meditation is conscious sleeping that gives you all the energy(creative abilities) you need for what you intend to accomplish.

I also use lucid dreaming as another way to increase creativity, I will soon write a hub on lucid dreaming.(Lucid dreaming is when you actually become aware in your dream that you are dreaming, once properly trained you can control your dreams)

Use the power of meditation to help you achieve your goals. Strive to everyday meditate one minute for each year of your current age. I am 24, so everyday I try and meditate at least 24 minutes. If you are new to meditation check out this website on transcendental meditation .There are many techniques find something that feels good to you.

Quantum Mind Power

Daily Routine:

1. Pick a nice comfortable place where to meditate. Have an intention on what you plan to meditate on before hand. Ex. A destination you want to visit.

2. Find a comfortable position to sit. Sitting on a chair or on the floor, does not really matter as long as it is comfortable for you.

3. Cross your legs, clasp your hands together.(this helps make your own energy circuit and gives stability)

4.Close your eyes, than stop inner and outer chatter.

5. Relax, begin thinking that your whole body is becoming extremely relaxed.

6. Eyes should be closed.

7. You will notice that your mind is full of many thoughts. Your mind will than begin to ask questions to those thoughts and try and come up with answers whether they are known or unknown. This is why your mind(ego) can be your enemy if it mostly thinks in negative terms.

8. You will need to transcend your mind and thoughts in order to meditate. Your mind and thoughts are what separate you from your higher self, you can also think of your higher self as your subconscious mind don't worry about the labels.

9. You transcend your mind by simply observing your breath. Don't inhale/exhale consciously just observe your natural breathing. Don't go behind your thoughts, if you catch your self drifting just always come back to your breathing. Slowly the amount of thoughts reduces and your breathing becomes thinner and shorter. If you are able to keep all your focus on your breath, you will get to the point of no thought and no breath. This state of no thought is your connection to your divine being and energy body. The more you meditate the more benefits and energy that you will receive. Your own self awareness and consciousness will also expand.

10. You will feel a very pleasurable feeling meditating. If you feel any discomfort in your body these can be possible areas of disease or illness. If you meditate everyday you will heal your body naturally.

11. Now that you are in a state of no thought and total relaxation. Begin to think only on your intention. Remember whatever you think now is in a state that will be impregnated directly into your subconscious. It is incredibly important that you don't color any of your thoughts with any lack,limitation,dis belief or doubt. This is why almost all self help material does not produce the results people expect. Wishing for more money(or anything else) never works, the thought of wanting more money also has the thought of doubt attached to it. Ask your self how many thoughts that you think about have been modified in a way that is not beneficial to you. You just never realize that you are programming your sub conscious all day. This is why meditation is so powerful. You are able to make suggestions to your subconscious where the thought is not modified in any way shape or form. So if you want to make things happen fast you need to get rid of the concept of attaching time to yourthoughts. You have to remember that everything you get in your life comes based on the conditions that you set up and time is usually one condition that cuases the most frustration with people. Just as a computer programmer gives a computer instructions to complete a task, you program the most powerful computer you have which is your subconscious. Your conscious mind acts as the gate keeper as to what thoughts you let in. Now that you know this choose to become more aware and conscious about what you think all day long. Learn to see the world in a non linear way, remove time from your consiousness and watch how things show up in your life faster than you ever thought.

Thoughts = feelings = actions = results (just like that you can begin to shape your life)

12. Mentally rehearse every moment of it with all your senses. Dare to be like Peter Pan :)

13. Visualize in vivid detail, your intention as established fact. Also make sure you meditate only on days you feel good. Remember you want your thoughts to be as pure as possible. This also means that you really find out what you want, make sure its not something you want solely for ego purposes. Thoughts that involve the ego are usually always colored with negativity.

14. With time you will begin to be able to hold vivid pictures of anything(you will develop you third eye). The more you are able to hold onto an image in your mind the more power you give it.

15. Get up and go have a great day :) notice how much energy you have the rest of the day. As you advance in your discipline, you will have a lot of fun basically creating your day before it starts.

Beliefs:

To start making that vision a reality you will have to change some of your beliefs and adopt beliefs that will help you reach your goals. Because if you have this great vision of you retiring on your own private beach but deep down you don’t believe you can do it, you have already sabotaged yourself. Your desire and your belief are in conflict with each other and therefore you will not manifest what it is that you want into your life. If you want to be a good leader one day but you currently have the belief that you are a shy person, it will not happen. You need to truly make a decision to adopt the belief that you are really outgoing. When you truly decide to do something you will find a way to do it.

“Nothing happens unless first a dream” – Carl Sandburg

Some Ways to shape your beliefs:

1. Always think Success- as soon as you think about failure forget about it and don’t let anymore negative thoughts snowball. The more attention you give a thought the more powerful it will become than you will make it harder for yourself to get back to a productive mind state. The only way to change how you feel is to think about something else. Whenever you feel doubt, fear, and failure creeping into your mind have a default thought that you can use to avoid giving attention to mental poison. As soon as I feel I am entertaining thoughts of negativity I immediately begin to think about relaxing on a beach and affirm to myself that “I attract abundance to all areas of my life”. The more I try and have the feelings of being on the beach with no worries and remind myself that I am in complete control of how I feel, I immediately feel the negativity begin to melt away as I begin to focus on my new positive thought.

2. Develop the belief that you are better than you currently feel- don’t look at your weaknesses as a burden but as an opportunity to improve your self. When I find something I don’t like about my personality I don’t get down on myself for it, I just realize that now I have something I can work on to make myself better. Most importantly love and accept who you are, not who you will or should be.

3. Believe that sky’s the limit- if you have little goals you will have little success, the bigger your dreams the more potential for your possible success. Even If you think your dream is too big, strive to reach that dream, because you will end up at a better place than if you would have set your sights on a smaller goal. The trick is to really believe you can do it, this just isn’t wishful thinking. Wishful thinking never got anyone anything, you need to find out what you want and get out there and get it. If you really want that house on the beach your mind will come up with ways to help you get it.(develop faith in your self)

How to remove junk beliefs:

1. Meditate on your old belief and tell the truth about it. Now replace it with a belief that will better serve you. Meditate on it until you feel you have changed that belief.

Now when you accept these beliefs it means you will have to raise your standards and develop a strategy that will put you on the road to accomplish what you set forth. Do whatever you have to do. Read any books that will spark your interest or help you discover any distinctions that will point you in the right direction. Find a role model, a person who has already accomplished what you want. Find out what some of their beliefs, interests, body language, image, etc. is and adopt them as your own. Your role model can serve as a blue print, the goal is to cut down on the trial and error so you can get where you want faster than you ever thought possible. You can take all the qualities from all the people you admire and add your own personal touch. Just think of if it as if you are trying to build the person you want and know you can be. Thomas Edison is one of the greatest inventors in history, he was able to elaborate, modify and adapt on other peoples ideas. You don’t have torecreate the wheel just constantly be aware of any success ingredients you come across and make them part of your identity. Think of your mind as a warehouse the more you learn and store will eventually serve as an inventory for future reference, which will breed new ideas and perspectives.

Consistency is key we are all creatures of patterns and habits. In order to become the person you desire to be, start by changing your patterns. Think of all the quality traits you must possess, make a pattern which uses those traits efficiently than strive to be consistent. Consistency will develop into habits and this is key because if you fail to be consistent with your actions you will not be consistent with who you desire to be. This lack of confusion between your actions and what your mind knows you are capable of leads to tremendous amounts of stress, confusion, and even depression. Many other consequences also come from a lack of consistency.

This is why awareness of self is critical; you need to be constantly evaluating your self. Decide if the persona you are currently displaying is the reality that you want for yourself,because with enough time thats what your reality will become.

How To Make Many Friends Easily

How to make many friends easily..

With every goal you have in life, people will always be a critical part of it. How fast you reach your goals depends on how well you deal with people and the level of influence you have on them. In order to really influence people you must become a person who is likable. How do you become likable? You must have a sincere interest in other people. Every person on this earth wants to feel important, so you need to treat everyone with the up most importance, because they deserve it. Remember no one is better than you and you are not better than anyone, we are all human beings who deserve the same amount of respect.

Becoming Likable:

Setting the Stage

Your goal in meeting people should be to consciously be the first to initiate and set the stage for conversation. Most people are hesitant to be the first, don’t be like most people step out of your comfort zone. I know that if you are a shy person that this can be one of the hardest things for you to do, but the more you do it, the more you condition your self for it to become second nature. As a small kid I used to be really shy but I noticed that the kids that where outgoing tended to be the happier kids so I began to step out of my comfort zone and now I feel I can walk up to almost anyone. This is going to take time; things don’t happen over night but don’t let this discourage you. Many people feel that for you to become proficient in something takes around five years. Don’t waste anytime, start today and each day after that will get easier. Each different experience will later serve as a reference to remind you, that you can approach almost anyone. By being the first to initiate conversation you also automatically have a certain degree of control, you are able to draw people into your own rhythms. Have you ever noticed how persuasive people are able to seduce you to their ways, dictating your body language and basically synchronizing it to theirs? This is because people naturally imitate other people as a way of communicating with the other person. So if you are the first you get to decide what angle to approach. So if the person you are approaching appears sad, approach them with a big confident smile. Odds are they will slowly begin to smile; you will automatically change their mood. Now you will have a better chance of having a better conversation.

In setting the stage you will need to train your self to pick up any subtle signals that the person you are approaching is giving off. With time you will be able to sum up a person in a blink of an eye and from what your subconscious catches use it help you set the stage. This will require you to have an open mind and immerse your self in as many different worlds/cultures as possible. That’s why I never limit my self to one particular set of friends. I have friends from all sorts of backgrounds. I have friends who are skaters, basketball players, artists, musicians, writers, etc. By having so many friends with diverse interests I quickly learn about their worlds. By knowing what kind of stage to set up you will know how to get the other person to think very highly of you. For example by being observant you will catch the subtleties in the way a person appears to be (The way he is dressed, body language, tone of voice, language, etc.) which will help you to imagine placing your self in there shoes. By really imagining what being that person is like it will give you a good idea of how he/she is feeling. This in turn helps you get a better idea of what appproach to use when trying to communicate effectively with them. When I am able to pick up persons subtleties I will know what topics, questions, and general things that appeal to them which gives me information to work with in the process of winning that person as a friend. Like if know this person is really passionate about cars, I will ask a question with the minimum knowledge I have about something that he knows or thinks he knows a lot about.

Now you set the stage for Mike who will love to tell me exactly why the Mitsubishi EVO is better. When someone is knowledgeable about something it’s in their nature to tell you because it is one more opportunity for them to show how great or smart they are. You have to cater to their ego and never test or contradict their ideas, because their ego will not accept someone who is supposed to know less tell them they are possibly wrong. If I would have told him that I heard that the Subaru WRX is better, we would have just gotten in an argument that he would not have backed out of. But I didn’t and now they will love me for it, because I was taking interest into what he enjoys.

Body Language

Whenever you approach someone for the very first time your body language will do most of the talking and the other person will immediately have a first impression of you. So you must always be aware that whatever you say your body is also in agreement. If you say one thing and your body says the opposite you will come out as someone fake. We have all seen the girl that walks up to another girl and says “I’m so happy to see you…how you been?....you look so good…” but their body language is saying “what are you doing here….I’m not really listening to what your saying” this is easily seen and can be one of the rudest things you can do in trying to make new friends. Always approach someone with open gestures and a smile. If you approach someone with crossed arms, this will automatically make the other person defensive and question your motives. Approach them with open arms and a gentle smile, smiling is infectious if the other person has a stern look on their face the moment youapproach them with a smile you will gradually notice that they will smile too. This usually sets it up for a good conversation because both people are in good moods. Try this - if you’re in a neutral mood right now, put a big smile on your face for no reason if you pay attention you can feel your body changing and your mood immediately start to change. People who are in good moods will place a lot more importance to what you have to say.

Questions and Listening

Your next goal is to sincerely try to find out as much as you can about the person. Ask quality questions; find out what is important to the person, goals, beliefs, interests, etc. The key is to be sincere so the person feels comfortable and is more likely to open up. Try to have a calm demeanor refrain from being overly eager as this might scare the person. You must be able to match the mood of the person. If the person is excited to tell you a story you must become excited as well. If the person is telling you a sad story you must show sincere empathy. Be open minded and really listen to the person.

Listening: Try to listen at least twice as much as you talk. Listening requires more than just pretending to listen or simply hearing a person talk. Listening and hearing are two completely different things and the person can tell if you’re really listening to them, or simply hearing them speak. Being a good listener is a skill, you must become an active listener. Remember this is all about the other person, who cares if you don’t get to talk about your self. In the end the other person will love you for it. They will tell their friends

“Man I really enjoyed talking to that person”….why is that? Was he a very interesting person? “You know what…I really don’t know why…I really don’t know much about him”

This shouldn’t bother you because in the end you greatly benefited from the situation as well. If you’re an effective listener you will gain a better understanding of that person’s thoughts, perspectives, feelings and actions. You have to remember that most people would rather talk than listen, but most of the time this person is not very influential. Take this as an opportunity to become more persuasive and influential.

Sometimes the problem with most people is that listening to them doesn’t have much value. They feel that in order to get people to like them they must do a great deal of the talking. Think about that for a minute, how do you like it when another person is talking so much that when you try and say something they still keep talking. You eventually quit listening to that person because you got to annoyed. Now sometimes you don’t need to do most of the listening, you constantly need to evaluate the situation. Sometimes people really want to hear what you have to say. In this situation still try and get the other person involved and flip around the question that they just asked you.

People who talk too much

1. People always talk about them behind their backs

2. In group settings they feel they always need to say something just to feel like they are contributing.

3. Usually have very big egos

4. They ask questions that they already have the answers too

5. Because they are so focused on having something to say aren’t even listening to what someone is saying.

People Who Listen Effectively

1.Get the whole picture, than they can act accordingly.

2.Everyone loves a good listener so you will make tons of friends.

3.No one talks bad about you, who ever said “man that kid just loves to listen too much”

Good listening is going to really take effort. The reason is that people can think a lot faster than people can speak. What ends up happening is that you begin to think of other things as that person is speaking. Than you become consumed with those thoughts. Next thing you know the other person asks you “So than do you think I did the right thing”. You weren’t listening so you have no idea what to say. This is one of biggest turn offs in trying to become friends with that person.

Things to avoid when Listening

Don’t Interrupt

Because you have the upper hand by thinking faster than someone who is speaking, you will become tempted to interrupt. Don’t because the other person will get the feeling that you don’t care what they are saying and want to bring back the topic of conversation to you. The other person might also have great momentum going in telling you a story, but when you interrupt them their story doesn’t carry as much feeling when they go back to speaking. You also show that you are one of those people who enjoy speaking more than being a good listener. When you interrupt you are also making assumptions of what you think the other person is about to say. This might cause you to miss out completely different information. Because you interrupted them the other person might not even want to continue telling you about it.

Don’t Finish Other Peoples Sentences

Don't Offer Advice too Soon

Compliments + Appreciation

The way to make people feel important is through sincere compliments and appreciation. Most people go out their way to do something, to get other people to notice them, yet most people don’t. Get in the habit of noticing the little things about people. In the end the little things are what matter and what end up making a person unique so pay attention. Next time you see them, be the first to give them a sincere compliment on something even as simple as their hair cut. By making other people feel good about them selves you should also feel good for doing it, it’s a win win situation.

Many times people walk around with the mentality that other people owe them something, nobody owes you anything. Whenever anybody does anything for you show your appreciation and let them know you don’t take anything for granted. Be spontaneous get the person a small gift when they don’t expect it.

Encouragement

Once you find out what is truly important to someone you must provide encouragement. Everyone has dreams and aspirations. Be the one who encourages them to pursue their goals. Any insight or information that’s empowering will provide a boost to their confidence. Most people are so afraid of failure that they will not pursue their goals. They will give you all the reasons why their goals are out of reach. Your goal should be to switch their focus on the negative reasons to the ways how they can make it happen. You have to remember that whatever we focus on becomes our reality, so when you focus only on the negative aspects that’s all you will see. When they give you a reason why they can’t do it, ask them if that’s really a reason or a mere excuse. If they are excuses show them how destructive it is to be in this mental state. Make them realize that all their hopes and dreams are in danger all because of petty excuses. One of the best feelings you will get in dealing with people, is when you get another person excited about his goals or ideas. Now that the person is excited you need to point them in the right direction. Help them research the world they want to be in; find out as much relevant information. Help them create a plan and deadlines that will help them reach their goals. Start with small attainable goals, this will help them gain momentum and than move onto more challenging goals. By being active in the whole process you will build a deeper and more influential relationship with that person. He will not see you as a mere friend but as an ally in their journey to success.

Plan and Organize Social Events

One of the best ways to develop a meaningful experience with someone is through a social event. Whenever you participate in an event or trip your relationship with those people will become even greater. When I studied abroad in Prague I have never developed such strong relationships in such a short amount of time. I met people from all over the world and on the weekends we would take trips to other countries. On these trips I made incredible bonds, because everyone was on an adventure of experiencing new things together. Experiences are always magnified with more people involved. Just think about when you are watching a funny movie all by yourself you begin to laugh but than realize no one is there to enjoy the moment with you and your experience is quickly diminished .

Making Effective Oral Presentation Home

An Oral Presentation is explained as a talk given to a group in which an individual presents his/her view on an issue or a topic based on their reading or research. It is a life blood of any business.

Employee needs good communication skills to interact effectively with their superiors / subordinates; to convey their information effectively in business meetings / presentations / seminars; for proper organizational planning, organizing, co-ordination, leadership, motivation and controlling.

Here are few tips which a presenter needs to follow for a powerful oral communication: - 1. Before the Presentation: -

Know your objective, audiences, the total time allotted the message to be conveyed and the resources available to convey the message. Systematically and logically frame the three main parts of the presentation which are introduction, main body and the conclusion.

o Rehearse and practice the entire presentation.

o Anticipate few questions and prepare their answers.

o Prepare a contingency plan.

2. During the Presentation: -

? Check the equipments, room arrangements and the lay-out.

? Use proper visual aids, diagrams, pictures, graphs, facts, figures, over head projector and power point presentation (templates, design and font).

? Take deep breathing.

? Stay confident, relaxed and be enthusiastic.

? Keep it simple, be concise, to the point and avoid repetition.

? Explain the key points with appropriate stories, examples, anecdotes and demonstrations.

? Emphasize on the key points.

? Never read continuously from the script.

? Use appropriate humour.

? Avoid using too many technical details.

? Emphasize on proper body movement, tone, eye contact, posture and gestures.

? Conclude on time.

? Leave time for discussion and for clarification of points.

3. After the Presentation: -

? Allow question and answer session.

? If you don’t know the answer, don’t lie.

? Take proper audience feedback.

? Find out areas of improvement.

Finally, Australian Research has found that the important elements of communication identified by small, medium and large enterprises are:

• listening and understanding;

• speaking clearly and directly;

• writing to the needs of the audience;

• negotiating responsively;

• reading independently;

• empathizing;

• using numeracy effectively;

• understanding the needs of internal and external customers;

• persuading effectively;

• establishing and using networks;

• being assertive; • sharing information; and

• speaking and writing in languages other than English.==========

Self Development Tips !

As long as you are still alive, you are capable of changing and growing. You can do anything you want to do, be anything you want to be. Listen to some positive thoughts on how to continue your self development and then apply them in your own life.

Accept personal responsibility for your own growth; no one can do it for you. What you do today will determine your readiness for tomorrow. Take time every day to do something for yourself. Take classes to stay current in your field of expertise. The world is changing rapidly and you must learn to manage change to avoid obsolescence. The way Will Rogers put this was that "Even if you are on the right track, if you just sit there you will get run over."
Listen to cassette tapes on personal and professional growth topics. Never look back to the past-you only can control your actions in this instant, so what should you be doing right now? Learn from "other people's experience" rather then having to try everything for yourself. It shortens the time needed to learn. Dealing with a problem helps you learn patience and strengthens your management skills; it is good mental exercise. Analyze, in a non-judgmental way, mistakes in which you were involved. It will help you to prevent these in the future. Reward yourself when you catch yourself working on the most important priorities. Never say something can't or won't be done. Keep looking for ways to do it.
After attending a seminar, report to your boss or other people in your organization, what the most important things are that you learned from the program.
For all learning experiences, whether it is reading, seeing, thinking or attending, apply the R squared, A squared formula: Recognize, Relate, Assimilate, and Apply.
These actions will help you grow in the direction of your goals.
Eliminate one time waster a week from your life.
Read a minimum of one chapter of a book a day.
Read a minimum of one book a month.
Be hungry for what life has to offer and go for it.
Decide what you really desire to do-then do it.
When you have the option of reading a book or listening to the cassette tape version of the program, listen to the tape. It will be more to the point and can be done while you are driving, jogging/walking, or getting other routine things done.
Develop a "master mind" group of four or five people with whom you can openly discuss ideas in a nonjudgmental way.
Develop yourself as a resource for others by networking. Find out who does what, when, and for whom. You may find excellent contacts for your future needs and for the needs of others you meet.
Work for balance in your life goals: family, financial, professional, social, spiritual, recreational.
Always keep your goals in mind as you start a new activity.
If you do a lot of work with the calculator, run the machine with the hand you don't use for writing.
Do not be afraid of failing at something. You can learn and change as a result of it.
The most difficult projects are opportunities for your biggest successes just as the most difficult people could become your strongest allies.
Put up pictures of your dreams and goals where you will see them frequently. They will remind you and aid you in focusing and visualizing your goal.
We all have the same 24 hours in a day. Learn from those people who get more done than you do. Perhaps you can find a way to improve what you are doing.
Find a nonjudgmental mentor who will help you by providing feedback, suggestions, challenges and support.
Identify some "models" and observe their style and actions. Do not copy them but learn from their experiences.
Learn from the errors you see others make as well as from their successes.
Fill your mind with positive ideas, thoughts and inspirations and you will have no room left for the negative.
Trade jobs with someone so you gain additional experience.
Ask for and accept lateral moves in the organization so you learn more about the entire operation.
Do more than your "self doubts" say you can.
Have confidence that you can get through and learn from anything and everything you experience.
Reward yourself with a treat when you have completed a learning objective.
Keep a daily journal, recording your thoughts, ideas, feelings and personal growth progress.
Ask questions, listen, then ask more questions. You will learn as well as help others learn. Ask yourself, "How can I manipulate my fate?" Do things with someone you respect. They will be supportive of you and you will learn from interacting with them.
Seek new information on projects for which you have responsibility. Look for new "ah ha" ideas all the time.
Challenge yourself to learn something new every day.
Remain flexible and constantly adaptable.
Be open to others and sincerely interested in them. You can learn from everyone you meet.
Mentally rehearse a new skill. Your subconscious does not know the difference between actual practice and mental rehearsal.
Keep a record of what you accomplished the previous day(s)/week. If you did not accomplish as much as you wanted, it gives you extra incentive to do better in the next time period.
Make notes of the questions you want answered. Then as the answers come to you, jot them down next to the question.
Work on overcoming personal, nonproductive habits; for example: overeating, smoking, gossip.
Keep an "Idea File" ring binder or notebook in which you record all new ideas. At least once a week in a standing appointment with yourself, review your ideas.
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The Effect of Work on Personality

What is Personality?

It’s the image of one self and how we cut across others in society. Personality is what we perceive in our mind. What is inside, the thoughts or the conflict inside contributes greatly to our physical appearance too. There is a certain image that we hold of ourselves and that is what is projected outside. If a person in physically attractive then he or she uses it to their advantage to wiggle their way out of an unpleasant situation. Personality therefore is what you are and it’s your identity. Sometimes we live in this mirage that we are very successful and therefore tend to live in an unreal world when the situation is quite the opposite.

How do you feel about yourself?

This is a very important question which needs to be asked frequently. The image that one has of oneself has to be very positive. That is only possible when one loves oneself unconditionally. A positive approach helps to build ones personality in a way which is healthy. Inner conflicts always occur and the negative thoughts always weigh heavily on the positive ones because the goal seems nearer when in fact its not so. There was a time when I was faced with such a situation at work. It concerned an email sent by one of those numerous conmen who look for gullible persons to dupe over the net. Well my boss was one of those prospective one. I decided not to show him that particular email but my junior did so I went ahead and told him the truth that such emails were meant only for trashing but somehow my boss thought that I had deprived him from earning a fast buck. This cost me my job but I feel being honest and true to myself was more important than saying the things my boss wanted to hear. Ultimately the company folded up too. The moral ‘be true and honest to yourself no matter what it takes’.

Does your work enhance your sense of self or does it bring you down?

This is a question that needs to be asked time and again. Anything that creates a doubt about oneself is not worth pursuing. If as job is a job which just means a paycheck is not worth while. A job should bring out the best in a person. It should enhance self respect and enhance your prowess and professionalism. Definitely ones job should not bring you down in your own eyes.

Have you thought about how your work might be impacting your health, your relationships and your happiness?

Work should not be stressful, impinging on your relationships and happiness. Your work determines who you are. Although work maybe the centre point of ones life yet it cannot be the very reason for our existence. Work is important but family and friends are the reason to go on living Work cannot be the benchmark for success or failure but family and relationships are
Sometimes the work that one does may make a difference in the world at other times it may not but one little act of kindness towards your colleagues may make a difference in the environment we spend quality time. It makes one feel good about oneself.

Time Management at its Best

Time Management at its Best Does your typical day goes something like this: Get the kids ready for school. Supervise the maid. Rush to work for a debriefing by your manager. Rush through the grocery store. Pick up your children. Reach home and start planning on dinner. Help the kids with their homework. Put them to bed. And finally have time for yourself.

Sound exhausting? Sound familiar? If this sounds like you, there is probably a lot of unnecessary stress in your life. Therefore, managing time is very important. The following tips for time management should be of help:

Tip 1: Prioritize Your Tasks

The key here is to remain focused on important tasks and small jobs that must get done to prevent overlooking anything. One of the best ways to prioritize is create a "to-do list. First, list all the tasks that need to be accomplished, and to be most efficient, rank them in order of importance. Keep the list realistic. If the list is too long it will become discouraging at the start of the day itself.

Tip 2: Get the Job Done Right the First Time

The key to avoiding mistakes is acknowledging the problems that cause the mistakes and then correcting the problems and determining what “to do” or “not to do” to prevent them from reoccurring. You should be able to detect a pattern of mistakes and find a simple solution to the problem. Doing a task in hurry in a quality less way will any way result in you working on the task all over again, so why not do it right in the first time itself?

Tip 3: Do Not Waste Time

When you do not fully understand the purpose of your role, a lot of time is spent questioning. This can result in tasks being done incorrectly, which wastes time. You will work more efficiently if you understand the importance of the task and your role in it.

Tip 4: Delegate Tasks

Because effective time management is the goal, delegating should be a tool in your time management tool kit. While delegating tasks may not actually save time, its real purpose is to give tasks to the appropriate people. When the need arises, it is also useful to "swap" or assign certain tasks to specific people who would be in a better position than you to carry out the task. For eg: If you like driving the car then maybe your husband can do the dishes at home.

Tip 5: Reward Yourself

The first thing you need to do is decide upon your goal. Let's say that it's to reach your work place on time. Now, you'll simply need to put yourself on a reward/punishment program and stick to it! If you accomplish the goal, take yourself out for pizza, or give yourself some other treat. But, if you don't, you should take away something of importance-like that extra cup of coffee in the morning, or that dessert at lunch to feel the consequences of not following through. If you truly want to stop shunning work and learn to manage your time better, you should seriously consider doing something about it, because if you don't, the behavior will only continue.

Focusing on these common areas of managing time should reduce the amount of time spent on each task. The problem of time management has worsened with corporate down-sizing. Employers are running leaner and meaner organizations in which three people are being asked to do what six used to do. Given the huge numbers of employees caring for children or aging parents, the idea of time management has expanded beyond managing just workplace tasks. As a result, more individuals require time management training in hopes that time management skills can help keep fast-paced, multi-taskers on track, and even improve the quality of their lives and work. You will be surprised how "values" trump "excuses" and how knowing yours will help you take back the driver's wheel of your life .

"Good time management skills focus as much on achieving quality as they do on the time saved".

Fundamentals of Effective Speaking

1. Acquiring the Basic Skills
• Take heart from the experience of others
• Keep your goal before you
• Predetermine your mind to success
• Seize every opportunity to practice

2. Developing Confidence
• Get the facts about fear of speaking in public
• Prepare in the proper way
• Predetermine your mind to success
• Act confident

3. Speaking Effectively the Quick and Easy Way
• Speaking about something you have earned the right to talk about through experience or study
• Be sure you are excited about your subject
• Be eager to share your talk with your listeners Speech, Speaker, and Audience

4. Earning the Right to Talk
• Limit your subject
• Develop reserve power
• Fill your talk with illustrations and examples
• Use concrete, familiar words that create pictures

5. Vitalizing the Talk
• Choose subjects you are earnest about
• Relive the Feelings you have about your topic
• Act in earnest

6. Sharing the Talk with the Audience
• Talk in terms of your listeners' interests
• Give honest, sincere appreciation
• Identify yourself with the audience
• Make your audience a partner in your talk
• Play yourself down The Purpose of Prepared and Impromptu Talks

7. Making the Short Talk to Get Action
• Give your example, an incident from your life
• State your point, what you want the audience to do
• Give the reason or benefit the audience may expect

8. Making the Talk to Inform
• Restrict your subject to fit the time at your disposal
• Arrange your ideas in sequence
• Enumerate your points as you make them
• Compare the strange with the familiar
• Use visual aids

9. Making the Talk to Convince
• Win confidence by deserving it
• Get a Yes-response
• Speak in with contagious enthusiasm
• Show respect and affection for your audience
• Begin in a friendly way

10. Making Impromptu Talks
• Practice impromptu speaking
• Be mentally ready to speak impromptu
• Get into an example immediately
• Speak with animation and force
• Use the principle of the Here and the Now
• Don't talk impromptu--Give an impromptu talk The Art of Communicating

11. Delivering the Talk
• Crash through your shell of self-consciousness
• Don't try to imitate others--Be yourself
• Converse with your audience
• Put your heart into your speaking
• Practice making your voice strong and flexible The Challenge of Effective Speaking

12. Introducing Speakers, Presenting and Accepting Awards
• Thoroughly prepare what you are going to say
• Follow the T-I-S Formula
• Be enthusiastic
• Thoroughly prepare the talk of presentation
• Express your sincere feelings in the talk of acceptance

13. Organizing the Longer Talk
• Get attention immediately
• Avoid getting unfavorable attention
• Support your main ideas
• Appeal for action

14. Applying What You Have Learned
• Use specific detail in everyday conversation
• Use effective speaking techniques in your job
• Seek Opportunities to speak in public
• You must persist
• Keep the certainty of reward before you

A POSITIVE ATTITUDE AFFIRMS LIFE

Attitude determines the lifestyle of a person and it develops when perception is followed by projection. Positive and negative attitudes are acquired by an individual over a period of time and according to their development, human beings fall into three categories:
1. There are those who imagine and project difficulties in any undertaking even before they start work and end up doing nothing. They are like the car which will not start unless given a push.
2. They are inspired initially, but give up for lack of perseverance. The third are those who become more and more inspired to execute a job, the more they face challenges and difficulties. Even if you are successful, negativity in attitude can crop up at any time for unknown reasons.
Remember:
1. You alone are responsible for your attitude.
2. As is your attitude, so are your perceptions.
3. As is your perception, so is your interaction with the world.
4. As is the interaction, so is the experience of life and,
5. As is the experience, so is the quality of life.
People who have negative attitude think and project only negative things and they develop it to such an extent that even a positive thinking person can become a victim of their presence. Such negative people can do nothing and they don't allow anybody else to do anything. Negative attitudes are the result of a weak personality at the physical, emotional and intellectual level. Physical strength can be gained by proper intake of food, and regular exercise. Some are obsessed with their figure. They torture their bodies.
They get cranky and misunderstand anything their parents say. This is a negative attitude, the reason being that when you don't eat properly you think about food. When you do this, the food has gone to your head. Good health helps us to come out of negativity. Emotional stamina too is a must. Emotional strength is gained by discovering some altar in life — it could be God, your guru, an idea; surrender yourself at that altar with total involvement and faith. Put logic away because by logic, no problems are solved. By love alone all problems get dissolved. When we apply our faculty of intellect and enquiry in doing a job successfully, it is vital to get things done not because of all odds' but 'despite all odds'. Enquire into 'how a thing is possible'. One must also remember that life is not about being successful, it is also the ability to go through both success and failure with grace. In success, we enjoy and from failure, we learn. When we have mastered the art of learning from failures, it leads to success ultimately.
This attitude towards failure is a positive one. When these three aspects of your personality are cultivated and developed systematically, you grow and develop Atma bal or inner strength. With inner strength, positivity becomes the foundation of our expression. The Manduka Upanishad says that the Truth is not revealed to cowards. Success is not for weaklings. When you have physical strength, emotional beauty and intellectual capacity, your attitude becomes positive. With this positive attitude, you jump into the battle of life, and success is bound to happen.

The Art of Public Speaking

Public speaking is an art, be it on the stage or delivering a speech or presenting a Seminar to a small or big audience. The speaker should bear few points on mind.

1.Audience: Do not use flowery language nor very simple language. Feel the pulse of the audience and then deliver the speech. Let the speech not be bouncer to the audience.

2.Voice: Voice plays a vital role in presentation. The audience are smart enough to find out if the speaker is confident or not. So let the audience not know even if you are nervous.

3.Poise and Posture: Dressing style always reflects what the speaker\'s personality. Be poised in appearance; no over makeup or too decorative with heavy jewellery or not very informal style but be simple but elegant. Let the posture not be with bent shoulders but with head held high and stomach tucked in and chest out. Never stand in a tand at ease position nor your hands in the pockets, never move to and fro or side ways as a pendulum. If there is a rostrum in front of you then don\'t lean on it nor rock with it.

4.Language: Let the language be with good vocabulary and interesting points. Never use high vocab which doesn't suit the scenario. Do not ask any questions to the audience and in case you ask do not wait for answers.
5.Humour:There is nothing wrong in using humour and making the audience have a lighter moment. This has to be used only if you are comfortable and can make it sound humorous otherwise the humour goes for a toss and you will start regretting for using it and the confidence level just goes down which would be difficult to bring it up again in the next few seconds. So don't experiment.
6.Eye contact: Do not look away form the audience nor look piercing into the eyes of the audience. Let the eyes travel from one end of the room to the other end.Do not look at the roof, outside the window nor at any one person. This shows that you are avoiding the rest of the audience which might distract the others.
7.Time: Maintaining of the time is very important and never drag the topic nor repeat the points. If any point is forgotten never bring it back just forget it once for all.

8.Conclusion: The audience should know that the speaker is about to conclude his/her speech. This can be done through the words like ...
In conclusion I would like to say or Lastly I would like to say or the bottom line is etc... You can end the speech with a joke, quotation, proverb or a poem suitable to the topic. A presentation can be made effective with the tips given above.
At the end of the seminar or presentation if the audience shoots any questions then be patient in answering the questions and don't give rude answers nor ridicule them with your sharp answers. If the do's and don'ts are followed then there is no turning back from a successful public speech.