Anger Management Is Not A Punishment

Every minute there is someone in the US battered. Some of them die because they stayed too long in a relationship that was doomed to fail. Many of those who went back were beaten and hurt because the other person claimed to be seeking help by anger management. To some people it's a game of cat and mouse.

Don't be confused on the battered syndrome. Anger is not just a male thing, but women are increasing in their aggression. There is only a small percentage of women who are claimed as batterers however, the statistics claim that the number could be larger because most men don't come forward. Some women can be just as deadly as man.

Anger management is often used as a tool of punishment. If you are guilty of assault and battery then you get some time in anger management. People use this tool as a solution; however, it is not the solution to the problem. The problem is that people can't control themselves and the anger management classes do not cure a person, but helps guide them.

If you are in a relationship and the other person is forced legally to go to the classes, don't feel secure about the relationship.

The person did not choose to go and find help, but they forced. When you force a person to seek help, they will go against their free will, feed the class a bunch of bull, and say what they think others want to hear.

They play the game and some have played the game very well. Those who are in anger management voluntarily is more likely to change than one that was forced. Anger management is a great way to learn techniques on controlling yourself, and it's a place where, you can get better at the lies. It's like a double-edged sword. Anger management class could, in fact, be a trigger. Some see the classes as limiting their control, and in a way it does.

So does anger management really help a person with their issues? Everyone is different, however, if you approach the subject with all seriousness, then you may pick up a tip or two and change for the better. Then again, if you blow off the classes and participate little as possible and you really don't want to change, you won't. Many women and some men take anger management for granted.

Many victims will go back to an abusive relationship because they think the person is seeking help, and then they end up getting hurt worse than before. If you are dating or married to someone who is in anger management classes and you have successfully gotten away from the person, you not go back. Anger management is not a solution, but a beginning. You will have to separate yourself completely in order for the other person to find it in their hearts to change.